Driving Assessment for Seniors: 8 Ways to Assess Your Parent's Driving

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It isn't always immediately obvious when an elderly person begins to have trouble driving. Your parent may not notice that her driving skills are deteriorating or may not want to acknowledge it -- and you may not care to either. Of course you want your parent to maintain her independence as long as possible, but don't wait for an accident to happen before you intervene. Here's what you can do:

Take several drives with your parent at the wheel, and observe her driving with an open mind.
Is she tense? Does she lean forward in her seat and appear worried or preoccupied? Does she often express irritation at other drivers? Does she seem particularly tired after driving? If so, she's probably beginning to have some anxiety about driving.

Notice whether your parent is reluctant to drive.
She may, for example, decline invitations to social events that require her to drive, particularly at night. This may be her way of acknowledging that she's aware of her own limitations and is taking steps to avoid an accident.

Watch for slowed reaction time.
Does she consistently wait too long to respond to traffic lights or other driving cues?

Notice her awareness of her driving environment.
Does she tailgate, for example? Does she stay in her own lane or let the car drift very close to the centerline? Does she complain of getting lost more than she used to?

When she's not with you, walk around her car and look for signs of damage.
Everyone's car gets nicked now and then by someone else's door in a parking lot, but does her car have the kind of scratches or dents that could indicate driving mishaps? If so, ask her about them.

If you've observed some questionable driving on your mother's part, ask her whether she's gotten any tickets for speeding or other violations.
Naturally, it's best to do this in a neutral, nonaccusatory way at a time when she's not behind the wheel.

If you're not comfortable asking about tickets, ask whether her car insurance rate has gone up.
If your parent's rate has increased, this may be a sign that she's had driving infractions.

Check in with trusted friends and neighbors about her driving.
Don't wait for your parent's friends or neighbors to call you if you're worried about your parent's driving. They may feel uncomfortable approaching you with any concerns but may talk with you if you contact them directly. If you live far from your parents, try to identify one or two such people who would be willing to keep you informed about your parent's driving and other safety matters. Contact them regularly, and make sure they have your contact information as well, so they can reach you if anything comes up.

Connie Matthiessen

Constance (Connie) Matthiessen, senior editor, has worked as a healthcare and environmental journalist at the Center for Investigative Reporting and has written for WebMD, Consumer Health Interactive, the Washington Post, the San Francisco Chronicle, BabyCenter. See full bio