End of Life Support Group
The end-of-life online support group is here to help you through all the difficult decisions and emotions involved in the before and after of losing a loved one. Connect with others willing to listen, and get support for end-of-life challenges. Learn how others are coping with grief, and post your tips and advice too. Come as often as you need to share, vent, ask questions, and feel less alone.
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2 days ago
Hi all, I'm new to the site. So nice to see this. I feel like I'm losing myself! I lost my Mama 7 months ago & just lost Daddy on the 16th of July,2016. Mama's estate wasn't even finished yet! Both parents made my older sis & I 50/50 beneficiaries but her as executor. She seems to think the job of an executor is to take everything from me. She even changed the locks to the house so I can't stay there when I thought I'd help her clean out the house & go through things. I only came back home because I became sick. After I came home (4hrs. away) is when she did all this. Dad always thought she was the best as she always went straight to him w/secrets I told her but I never told him hers. Never did. Her secret would've gotten her disowned.! I know this as I had to tell him my only lie I ever told to them to not be disowned myself at 14 yrs old. She was in college! He also made this change in May even after knowing what he did to me during Mama's 6 months hospital stay before she died. Well, he KNEW HER side of it actually. I never told him mine cause I figured he had enough stress knowing he was losing his wife! I'm so confused-idk who to be mad at. Him, or my sister? Hubby says-"if you want to be mad at anyone be mad at your dad for giving her full control". I said-"yes, but she doesn't have to act the way she is & even so, he didn't mean for her to take everything including keeping me from my childhood possesions. Including both of their wedding bands! I was so angry to begin with as I wasn't even finished grieving for Mama & now I can't even grieve for either of them cause I'm so stressed out my health is continuing to suffer w/my depression,anxiety,BP/PULSE was 140/100 & 140,fibromyalgia & a myriad of back issues. It's easier said to just not think about it & relax! Help!??? Advice?? I can't even think at this point!
5 days ago
My grandfather passed away last Wednesday, July 20th around 2AM. He died in his sleep, but had the worst 6 months of his life this year battling lung cancer. His last month we had hospice come to the house once a week and he was angry almost every day then some days he was happy to be outside. The grandkids all spoke at his funeral on behalf of our family. He was cremated and is now at my grandmothers house, which has helped because we could talk to him and touch the box he is in. Now that I'm back at home and trying to get back to normal is when it is hitting me hard. I'm not near my family, i'm 6 hours away and I miss them dearly. I tried to go to work today, but had to come home because it was to hard. I know people say he is in a better place, which I know he is- but I'm mad because I want him here. I want everything to be the same. I miss him so much. I want to be able to go back to my grandparents house when I visit and see him, but the fact that I know that will never happen again hurts so bad. This is the first person I've had die and I was very close with him. He had a big piece of my heart and now it is just in pain. I know people say it will take time, but I've just never felt this sad. I keep hoping i'll go to sleep and dream about him and it'll make me feel better, but I haven't dreamt about him yet so I just keep waiting. My grandmother is doing ok, which helps. She is the one who saw him in all the pain every day so I know it must help her knowing he isn't in pain any longer. I don't want to cry in front of her or when I call her so this is first chance I've had to be alone since he passed and I can't stop crying. I had to leave work today. I'm hoping this pain passes and I can start to think of the good times, right now i'm just hurting so much.
about 1 month ago
Need advise desperately. My father just passed away.and I'm eldest daughter. My younger sister lived with him. And she was poa, and very difficult to work with. I haven't been able to see his will. And she's very materialistic. I don't want to fight with her. All I cared about was him. Not his belongings. And all she seems to care about is that she will have to pay for her own cable, phone, and food. Do I have any rights? And how can I find out my rights without making things harder for me with her? Anything will help?
4 months ago
My sister (age 51) died in October and a very close cousin (50) died a few days ago. I am getting little support from friends. This is on top of many diseases and health conditions that I have. I hurt a lot about cousin dying. Sister was awful to me for the last 30 years of her life. I was raised by a narcissistic mother and an enabling father. Now the only siblings I have are brothers. One in Alaska and one in Colorado. I was non-contact with all except brother in Colorado. How do I get the ball moving with conversation again w/ brother in Colorado? We always had a fun relationship and I love him very much. He didn't speak a word to me at the funeral.
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