Being a Caregiver
It's easy to focus on everyone and everything other than yourself. In this online support group, we focus on the "i" in Caring and your role as a caregiver -- offering tips, advice and support to help with self caring.
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well ive been a cna for almost 13 yrs....recently i left my recent place of employment being there for 8 yrs to transition over to my local hospital as a cna there....im really nervous and excited all at the same time ....its weird cause i miss my old residents i took care of but I wasn't getting anywhere at where i was working.....the pay raise wasn't changing and always working short staffed...i was literally working 3 till 11 and not leaving there till 1 in the morning due to not having enough help and taking care of 22 residents alone and still have to document on every single one....it wasn't fair to me and i needed to get out and do something with my life to better myself financially and mentally ....was it wrong of me to leave my last place knowing what going on ????? i get the guilt trip from co workers....asking me to come back for the residents.....
Pumpkin pie in your eye said...
about 1 month
My son is almost 40 and sustained a traumatic brain injury 20 years ago. I applied for disability about 8 months later and was denied. My husband and I continued to encourage him to do things for himself to live a "normal" life. Flash forward 20 years, his life is in shambles. In 2017 he wrecked and survived 2 roll over, fired from a 61/2 year old job for misconduct and denied unemployment. He then signed the title on the truck he just bought so the flavor of the month could driveway with it. Trying to get money was robbed and had his arm broke with a rifle butt that turned into a robbery and Ultimately cost me over $5,900.00 to fix his arm. I am still paying. When I was a child, I had a cousin that had issues from being adopted. He was mean and I was afraid of him so I would be really nice and try to change the subject when I thought he was going to be mean to me....that is my life now at 61 with my son. He had to wait at the Dr office today for an hour and a half and his blood pressure was 160 over 102 and that is what I deal with on a daily basis.
about 2 months
Hi my Mom is in a nursing home because I no longer could care for her at her home. so Medicaid took everything. She resents me I am no good, why did I put her in their. I visit her everyday make sure she has clean clothes, snacks and so forth. But nothing is good enough she is fine one day and off on the other she curses like a truck driver, and I was warned if she keeps it up they can discharge her to another place may be not as nice. I am trying to keep my head up, she throws it in my face I took care of you. I am tired she is 95 this has been two years now of nursing home, and three years of keeping her at home. I have no life, no vacations, and it taking a toll on myself and my husband
about 2 months
My mom is a caregiver for an adult who was born with lack of air and frontal lobe issues (no official name we are aware of). He has the mental capacity of a 2-5 year old depending on the day.
His behavioral analyst is not very good at coming up with answers and nothing he says helps. Is this the right place to ask questions about this?
He freaks every time she is on the phone with anyone. Doesn't matter if she is in another room, outside, etc. when he hears her he freaks out.
He is highly jealous of her. She can't leave the house without him flipping out. (hes not alone) He is just so attached to her that even a 15 min run to the store and back without him makes him flip and his behavior is bad for the next few days.
Any advice on things she can try for these two?
about 2 months
Anyone dealing with a spouse that has a brain injury? My husband sustained a brain injury a year ago during a tractor trailer accident. His emotions are a roller coaster. His behavior is so inappropriate at times when we are out that we have to go home. He is congnative enough to be able to argue with me about going through therapies and treatments but not enough to be aware of how damaged his brain really is. It’s exhausting and sad. How do you help someone who isn’t aware of how injured they are?
about 2 months
I'm so stressed out and need to vent. I'm 56 my husband is 65. We are both on disability. I'm having a total hip replacement surgery tentatively on March 5. I am still awaiting approval and getting the exact date. I have RA, DDD, fibromyalgia among other things.
My husband is a bad diabetic and suffering the consequences. He won't take care of himself.
My dilemma is this...I care for him and do all around here. He is not up to taking care of me when I come home from surgery. I don't let him drive because he's been in accidents and scares the hell out of me. I drive him to his appointments, etc. Bottom line he cannot be here alone either if I ended up in transitional care.
We have no one to come and help for awhile. I'm talking cooking, driving, etc. I don't think I will be able to drive for 8 weeks after surgery. We have limited funds. We live off our disability and that's not much.
My husband thinks he's fine to take care of me and drive. So there's no use talking to him.
I don't know what I'm going to do. Anyone have any suggestions? I need this surgery.
melinda holmes said...
about 2 months
I don't know where to start. I care for my mom full time,as she lives with us. She suffers from dementia. although I am stressed, confused, unhappy and feeling lost, I really am quite fortunate compared to some of the stories I have read., My mother is 87, her health is good. I do need to be with her full time which impacts my family, money, and me. There are so many numbers and agengies...I do not know where to begin. Those around me and states away, express sympathy, caring and helping. But it never really happens. It does fall back on me. So I am struggling to find moments to google, make calls, respond to calls, answer questions. causing me to fall very short of myself and my family, my home, an income.
I don't quite know if I'm asking a question, seeking guidance or just venting. Thanks for listening
Just need to vent at times. I live and take care of my 85 year old mother. I have MS, am 63 years old. My 59 year old sister comes 3 times a week, for a total of 15 hours, the rest is left to me. Mom is on hospice, dementia and hearing loss. She can be very argumentive and forgets a lot. Right now she is our of house on a respite (5day) stay. It's been a nice break for me, but I'm a little apprehensive about her return.
I am caring for my 87 year old mother by myself. I do not feel I am giving her adequate care. I live with her. I, myself am on disability and cannot work. I have friends but they all have their own things to deal with. I would really like to just get some input with someone else going thru this. I have not ever done this online and don't know what to do. Does anyone out there feel this way too?
My wife bipolar depression and has been in a manic state for about a month more so since she stop taking her meds. We are struggling since I lost my job 11 months ago. It has been hard I’ve also got depressed and on medication. My beautiful wife is the hardest to deal with she belittles, emasculate me, accuses me threatens me constantly. I have had to lock myself in my office she can be confrontative so I’m afraid of my reacting to her. I’ve been sleeping on the floor for some time. Recently got her to see her psychiatrist she gave her meds but refuses to take them, so we’re back to the same. I’m a Christian which has helped me stay stable but I get tired. - next week I drive our daughter to college in New Mexico and trying to help my son get into the military- all this has cause us All added frustration. Just needed to vent- I know God has a plan for us-
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