My husband and I have had quite the couple of years dealing with aging relatives having to be in nursing homes and retirement homes. I think we're getting to be pretty good at evaluating what a good one is from what a bad one is. My great-aunt Agnes is 95 and, until recently, very spry and aware for her age. She's no Betty White but she was able to care for herself and her small cottage which was on the same property as my brother's in Seattle. But, while he doesn't have a family of his own, he couldn't be at his house 24 hours a day to continuously keep an eye on Aunt Aggie. I live in Oregon and travelling up to Seattle wasn't something I got much of an opportunity to do. My brother started to notice about a year ago that Aunt Aggie would forget first small things and then eventually even who he was. Doctors diagnosed her with borderline Alzheimer's and we felt it was simply dangerous to allow her to live essentially by herself. My brother did some shopping around the Puget Sound area for a place she could live that had a focus on Alzheimer's patients and eventually found Garden Courte in Olympia. While it's a bit of drive from Seattle and Eugene where I live, it's fair to say it's more or less splitting the difference for us as far as travel distance goes. They are GREAT at Garden Courte! While it's VERY expensive (over $3K a month!), Aunt Aggie is really getting what we (and Social Security) are paying for. You name it and they have it there: a mini theatre, an exercise room (Aunt Aggie was always worried about her slim figure), all the usual housekeeping and food services, plus activities and socializing fun. The health care there is second to none (it better be for the money we're paying them!) and Aunt Aggie seems to enjoy it there. Her Alzheimer's is getting worse, unfortunately, but she has lots of reminders of her life around her such as family pictures and mementos in her little apartment. The building/grounds are very nice and the staff treat all their residents with respect and warmth. Frankly, I'D like to live there! It would be great if we could round up all the family members who currently live in assisted living facilities, plus the ones headed that way, and all move to Garden Courte!