How Do You Help Convince a Grandparent to Move Into Assisted Living?

Author: Alicia Centeno

Reviewed By: Catherine Braxton

You can convince your grandparent to move into assisted living by emphasizing the benefits, lending a listening ear and taking a tour of the community. Maybe your grandparents forget to pay bills, leave the stove on or sit at home feeling sad and lonely. While you believe assisted living will be the right fit, they continue to refuse. Learn helpful tips to convince your grandparent to move into an assisted living community.

Emphasize the benefits

Seniors who need help with activities of daily living may be ideal candidates for assisted living. These vibrant communities have plenty of activities and amenities to keep residents active and engaged. Many communities feature useful amenities, such as fitness centers, libraries, arts and crafts studios and restaurants.

Assisted living gives seniors a maintenance-free lifestyle since staff members take care of housekeeping, laundry, maintenance, and cooking. They’ll enjoy chef-crafted dining, full schedules of engaging activities and plenty of free time without worrying about the hassle of bills and home maintenance. You’ll also get more time to spend with each other because your grandparents won’t be worried about completing these tasks around the house. When convincing a grandparent, emphasize all the positive opportunities assisted living communities offer. 

Lend a listening ear

Many seniors have a reason why they’re protesting assisted living. Listen to your grandparents and understand where they’re coming from. If a grandparent wants to stay in their home, you can talk to them about the positives of assisted living communities.

For example, they won’t have to worry about housekeeping or keeping track of utility bills. On the other hand, they could be extremely lonely at home, and assisted living will give them countless opportunities to make new friends. Knowing where they’re coming from can help you reframe the situation that works for both of you.

Take a tour

When deciding on assisted living for a grandparent, get everyone in the family on the same page. This will help ease tension when moving day arrives. Once everyone agrees upon an assisted living community (or communities), involve your grandparent in the process by taking them on a tour.

No one wants to feel like they’re being forced into assisted living, especially to a place they’ve never even seen. Going to the community in person will give your grandparent a feel for what it’s like to live there, and they’ll get to meet both staff and fellow residents and ask their own questions. They’ll also get to see the apartments, amenities, and dining area to get a sense of what the community has to offer, and they’ll be much more likely to agree to this change.