Author: Ashlee Shefer
Reviewed By: Brindusa Vanta

You can be a caregiver for memory loss patients by learning about cognitive disorders and understanding your loved one’s unique needs. Memory loss progresses gradually and worsens over time, meaning your loved one’s needs and cognitive abilities will evolve as they transition through various stages of dementia. This also means they’ll require more care and assistance as their condition changes. 

Some caregivers develop a dementia care team of professional care aides and medical specialists to alleviate responsibilities, especially if they have jobs or families. Memory care communities are also an option if your loved one is experiencing serious cognitive decline or caregiving becomes too physically, emotionally or financially demanding. If a community isn’t feasible, it’s important to provide a secure environment to keep your loved one safe and comfortable. 

Should you move in with your relative with dementia?

Moving in with your relative with dementia enables you to provide 24-hour support, enhancing your loved one’s safety and comfort, but moving in with your relative may be unrealistic if you own a home or live with others who rely on you. 

An alternative is inviting your relative to live with you if you have an extra private room. Allowing them to personalize the space can ease the transition and help them feel a sense of control. It’s important to maintain open, honest communication to ensure your relative approves and feels welcome. 

Living with your loved one with dementia allows them to remain in familiar surroundings, reducing symptoms such as confusion and anxiety that may be triggered by moving to a new environment. 

How to communicate with someone with dementia

It is helpful to have patience, empathy and clarity when communicating with someone with dementia. Your loved one may experience behavior or personality changes, such as becoming agitated or aggressive if they feel you’re being too controlling or not meeting their needs. Learning how to communicate effectively can prevent frustration or impatience. Here are a few tips to make communicating with your loved one easier:

  • Listen to their concerns and needs
  • Speak calmly and reassure you understand them
  • Respect their personal space
  • Ask simple, direct questions
  • Break down activities and tasks into small, manageable steps
  • Change the subject or environment to reduce agitation or confusion
  • Redirect their attention if they become sidetracked
  • Reminisce about fond memories