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Welcome to this online support group for spousal caregivers! Please introduce yourself - Ask for advice - Share your experiences caring for your husband, wife or partner. Talk about ailments and treatments, caregiving and relationship challenges, daily life, your tips for others. Vent, laugh, and come back to this online support group as often as you need to feel less alone. Some featured conversations to help you get started...

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Laura234 said...

about 6 hours ago

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Brian Laura

about 6 hours ago

Seffy said...

2 days ago

The other day, B grabbed the television remote and once again hit something by mistake that took me over an hour to fix. I called Dish Network, but the only thing the technician could do was offer to send me one of the voice-activated remotes (advised me not to "tinker" with the existing remote any further, for fear that I would screw it up even worse; a Google search actually told me how to reset it). Anyway, I know someone else on here mentioned having a voice-activated remote for her husband, but I can't find the discussion. How hard is it to set this up? Are there any pitfalls to using this over the 'standard' Dish Network remote?

I was also wondering if anyone might have suggestions for keeping the television remote handy. Hubby is constantly either dropping it off the bed, or losing it in the bedcovers. At one time, I actually used electrical tape to attach a lanyard to the remote so that he could wear it around his neck, but now he has an emergency phone that he wears around his neck, so that's no longer an option.

Sassy16 said...

about 24 hours ago

Seffy said...

about 15 hours ago

Beyond Tired said...

2 days ago

I took our son to the clinic on Wednesday for what I thought would be bronchitis. He's in the ICU with pneumonia and diabetic Ketoacidosis. His heart stopped 3 times, now with tubes helping him breath . We didn't know he's diabetic. In all this my husband s mom has been looking after hubby. I'm so glad I've gotten where I have his pills fixed for a few weeks ahead, clothes fixed and stuff. Made it a lot easier when she'd text where is something it was mostly already ready. Please keep us in your prayers. Our son healing, strength for me. I'm running on so little sleep, and vending machine food.

Seffy said...

about 24 hours ago

Aligar said...

about 21 hours ago

Njj1 said...

3 days ago

My husband, while not physically dependent on me, refuses to let me out of his sight. He has Alzheimer’s. In the rare occasions I go without him I treat him like a 2 year old. I don’t tell him until the last minute. I explain, reassure, leave him a note about where I am. He gets so upset. Complains of aches, pains, says he’s dying and I don’t care about him. I feel he’s blackmailing me, and I shouldn’t give in. Am I right to go anyway? What else can I do?

JayAnne said...

2 days ago

Seffy said...

1 day ago

ekjk4ever said...

5 days ago

hi first time posting anywhere. my husband is only 57 and refuses to seek help. he is showing signs of some form of mental illness i fear frontalobal dementia. the meltdowns and anger are out of control. any ideas on how to convince him to accept help and get a diagnosis? it affects the children 16 and 23 who have their own mental disabilities but at least they acknowledge their problems and receive treatment. ugh the stress is putting me over the edge.

Chgogal said...

5 days ago

Sheila1944 said...

5 days ago

Wornout Wife said...

6 days ago

Well as I feared.... the toilet failed. Will need to call the plumber tomorrow morning first thing. Angry because he didn’t say anything until just now....after a day of it failing. He didn’t want to tell me - but it is worse to find out after wasting all that water. It isn’t like it is going to fix itself. So tired........

Sheila1944 said...

2 days ago

Wornout Wife said...

1 day ago

franny46 said...

8 days ago

I had a tooth pulled on Friday and on Saturday I was telling my husband how sick and tired I was for feeling bad all the time. As I looked at him struggling to get up with his walker I said OMG, you've been feeling bad for years and years! That sure put things in perspective. On the other hand, when I feel bad I still have to take care of him but there's no one here to take care of me.

Seffy said...

7 days ago

Sheila1944 said...

7 days ago

Wornout Wife said...

8 days ago

I have had a cold for the last few days, and I stayed home from work yesterday. Sigh. He is so self-absorbed. I was trying to sleep. But then I hear a dog barking and it went on for at least five minutes. It was our dog, barking in the backyard, and I was upset because it kept me from sleeping. I got up, and I told him that I really did expect him to keep things quiet when he knew I was sick and trying to sleep. I told him he was a lousy caregiver. I shut the bedroom door and tried to go back to sleep. He then opened the door several minutes later to defend himself, saying, "I heard barking but I thought it was the dog out front." Really. Really? REALLY? And even if that were true, you don't think the 'dog out front' would also cause our dog out back to bark. And on top of it all to wake me up yet again just to defend yourself. Jeez. I hate being sick. Mostly because when I am, I am on my own, on top of everything else going on. I have these visions of being brought chicken soup, some Kleenex, maybe (gasp) some chocolate candy....But no, I just get business as usual, him reading his iPad while listening to his music. My being sick is just an added inconvenience. Feeling so tired today.....

Seffy said...

2 days ago

Sheila1944 said...

2 days ago

Seffy said...

10 days ago

I’m frustrated. Latest in the caregiver agency saga…husband called me this morning, worried and upset when nobody had shown up at the house by 9:30 a.m. Whoever his caregiver was scheduled to be for the day (would be nice if the agency would let me know in advance, but I guess that’s a bridge too far) is usually there no later than 9:00 a.m. So, in the middle of everything at work, I called the agency and got their scheduler who said, “Yeah, we don’t know where your person is. She hasn’t clocked in anywhere yet, so we’re still trying to track her down.” Very blasé. I said fine; work it out. Half hour or so later, I get an email from the scheduler, “Hey, we are sending ‘Mary’ over...she should be there in about a half hour. Due to the short notice that you did not want ‘Angie’ [the pot and pan thief], we scheduled someone else but that person took cold medicine last night that caused her to oversleep.”

First off, were they going to bother to tell me that today’s caregiver was MIA, or were we just supposed to cross our fingers and hope that someone would eventually show up? Secondly, the fact that there was ‘short notice’ (3 days) that I didn’t want Angie-the pot-and-pan thief to return to my home isn’t my fault. It’s not like I said on Friday, “My husband doesn’t like her hair color; don’t send her to us on Monday.” For that matter, we had other caregivers on Monday, Tuesday, and yesterday without any problem; why was today an issue?

Fortunately, my husband didn’t have any doctor appointments scheduled for this morning, or not having someone there would have been an even bigger problem.

Am I just expecting too much?

Sheila1944 said...

8 days ago

Seffy said...

8 days ago

14 days ago

Loss of intimacy

Seffy said...

2 days ago

2 days ago

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