What is the best way to make the transition from home care to a long term care facility?

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What is the best way to make the transition from caring for your parent at home to placing them in a residential care home? My mom is now in a stage that she needs 24 hour care .

Expert Answer

As Founder and Director of Circles of Care, Ann Cason provides caregiving, consulting, and training services to individuals and public and private organizations involved in eldercare. She is the author of Circles of Care: How to Set Up Quality Home Care for Our Elders.

Remember that transitions are sensitive times. Accidents can occur or feelings can be hurt. Go slowly and be gentle.

Here are a few tips:

Communicate clearly by letting your mother know that she needs more care than she can receive at home.

Make sure your mother understands that entering into residential care will not mean losing you as her main caregiver. You can look at residential care as a way of extending her circle of caring.

Make sure the residence understands clearly all of your mother’s care needs.

Try to find a residence close to where you live. It will save you hours of travel time.

Take your mother to visit and draw her into the decision making process.

Take plenty of time to process any hurt feelings that she may be feeling.  

When she moves, make sure to take several days to stay with her so that she becomes familiar with the new routines.

Try to get some counseling or support group help for yourself so that you can be clear, warm and supportive.