How can I get a break from caring for my mother 24/7?

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I am taking care of my mother in my home. She is almost blind and can't fix her own meals. How can I get a break from taking care of her 24/7?

Expert Answer

It's good that you recognize that you need regular breaks, because as a caregiver, you are at high risk for burnout.

It's difficult to advise you without knowing the details of your situation or the services available in your particular area, but I do have a few suggestions. First, consider whether there are friends or family members who might be able to pitch in. For example, if your mother has a friend who is healthy and has time on her hands, she might be willing to come by once a week to visit with your mother and make her lunch or dinner while you go out. Depending on your mother's needs and physical condition, a responsible teenaged grandchild may be able to do the job. If you have siblings who live far away and so can't give your mother daily care, ask them to come for a weekend -- or longer -- now and then, to take over while you take a break.

Next, contact your local Area Agency on Aging, and ask about respite services and other resources for seniors. Many senior centers offer regular day care programs. Your mother is likely to enjoy the opportunity to socialize, take classes or participate in crafts and other activities that such centers usually offer. If you don't have access to any of these services and money permits, consider hiring a companion to stay with your mother when you are out, or to just drop in and prepare meals, if your mother can stay on her own.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!