How can I help my mother cope with the death of my father?
My father passed away on November 14th and my mother seems to be suffering as much if not more than when Dad passed. I want her to get out and get involved with some groups that can help her to understand and cope. She stays in her apartment for the most part. I have 2 sisters that are closer than I am. They live within 2 hours from her but I live in Texas and I cannot be there to help her. I call often
Expert Answer
Your mother is blessed to have a daughter who is concerned about her. Since I am not a counselor, I can only give you a funeral director's perspective. Many funeral homes have lists or at least know of resources in the community to help those who are grieving. Call and ask what they can suggest. Many funeral homes even have someone on staff who holds grief support groups or who follows up with a surviving spouse a few weeks after the funeral.
If your mother attends church, you may want to contact someone at the church to see if there is someone who can meet with her and also if there is a group that she can get involved with. Don't be afraid to suggest that they contact her as she may not feel not taking that first step herself.
Ask the funeral director or someone at the church if there are other groups available, such as a support group or senior citizens group. An internet search of support groups in your mother's city may give you something too.
You're to be commended for wanting to help your mom after the death of your father, especially while you, too are grieving his death.