How can I help my mother cope with the death of my father?

2 answers | Last updated: Sep 18, 2016
Txjetmech asked...

My father passed away on November 14th and my mother seems to be suffering as much if not more than when Dad passed. I want her to get out and get involved with some groups that can help her to understand and cope. She stays in her apartment for the most part. I have 2 sisters that are closer than I am. They live within 2 hours from her but I live in Texas and I cannot be there to help her. I call often


Expert Answers

Rebekah Peoples, CFSP, CPC, Is a licensed funeral director and embalmer. She is passionate about serving others and believes that giving clients honest, accurate information empowers them to create tributes and services that are meaningful and appropriate. Her tips about funerals and life can be found at www.funeral411.com.

Your mother is blessed to have a daughter who is concerned about her. Since I am not a counselor, I can only give you a funeral director's perspective. Many funeral homes have lists or at least know of resources in the community to help those who are grieving. Call and ask what they can suggest. Many funeral homes even have someone on staff who holds grief support groups or who follows up with a surviving spouse a few weeks after the funeral.

If your mother attends church, you may want to contact someone at the church to see if there is someone who can meet with her and also if there is a group that she can get involved with. Don't be afraid to suggest that they contact her as she may not feel not taking that first step herself.

Ask the funeral director or someone at the church if there are other groups available, such as a support group or senior citizens group. An internet search of support groups in your mother's city may give you something too.

You're to be commended for wanting to help your mom after the death of your father, especially while you, too are grieving his death.


Community Answers

Caringdenise answered...

Hi Txjetmech, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Thank you for reaching out for help for your mom and family! Thank you also to Rebekah Peoples Chapman for sharing her expert guidance. A few resources on Caring.com that may also be helpful...

Online Support Groups -- including an End of Life Support Group

Grief & End of Life resource centers: https://www.caring.com/grief https://www.caring.com/end-of-life

You might also contact the local Area Agency on Aging in your mom's county to learn more about older adult programs and services in her area: https://www.caring.com/local/area-agency-on-aging

Please do let us know if you have more questions, or need more suggestions. Thanks!