My mom cries daily for her deceased mom in the bathroom, what can we do?
My mother cries daily for her mother and father who have been deceased for 15 + years. This occurs 99% of the time in the bathroom. We don't know what the connection is with the bathroom and her crying. She cries whether we are bathing or just using the toilet. HELP!!!
Expert Answer
Many of us have a hard time with death and grief; we are very uncomfortable with overt exhibition of anguish, especially so many years after someone's death. Think of what we tell each other when a loved one has died: "Life goes on," "time heals all wounds," and even "get over it already!" There are no standards for how long any one of us needs to mourn.
Unfortunately you do not elaborate on what happens before or after these episodes, so I have to assume that you've tried to get your mother to talk about it, to no avail.
If your mother's crying spells only happen in that one particular bathroom, in other words, not in public restrooms or at friends' houses, try to have her use another bathroom in your house or have her help you redecorate the "trigger" bathroom. I would also encourage you to help her with her grief. It might ease her pain if you work together to set up a "shrine" for them (filled with joyful memories) "“ and encourage her to talk about the joy and the pain. Celebrate your grandparents with her.
Lastly, contact a grief counselor at one of your local hospices.