Moving in with a significant other -- also known as merging households -- is a serious step for middle-aged folk. The pitfalls are practical and emotional, but the rewards can be very sweet. Here's a set of tips that will help you navigate these waters while keeping your sanity -- and maybe even some of your favorite tchochkes!
1. Detach.
You've got too much stuff anyway, and you know it. Acknowledge that there's a lot that's got to go. Edit your half of the equation as much as possible before attempting the big merge.
2. Remember that you're partners, not rivals.
You're in this together now. It's not a competition. Your stuff is not intrinsically better than his, or vice versa.
3. Hold space for "sacred cows."
There are lots of things that are important to each of you, even if not "valuable" in terms of either aesthetics or money. Honor them.
This was very helpful as I contemplate my own situation. My guy has held on to some thing I know wouldn't work in my home. The objective is to be together, and I guess we'll have to come up with those things that we can't do without. After all it is just stuff.
never seen this discussed before. very sensible and practical.