How to protect my aunt from her kids?

1 answer | Last updated: Sep 17, 2016
A fellow caregiver asked...

my uncle died recently and my cousins are not giving my aunt any time to grieve. They are all converging on her to go thru her husbands things to take what they want and not giving her a chance to go thru the items herself.

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Rebekah Peoples, CFSP, CPC, Is a licensed funeral director and embalmer. She is passionate about serving others and believes that giving clients honest, accurate information empowers them to create tributes and services that are meaningful and appropriate. Her tips about funerals and life can be found at

This is a tough situation. Your aunt needs some time to grieve, as you accurately stated.

Is there someone who can advocate for her to work out a time frame that will be agreeable for her and her children? It might be you or another family member or even a family friend. You might also consider a minister, doctor or even attorney, but it's important that her children have respect for that person or they won't pay any attention.

As a funeral director, I hear about situations like this, but you might want to consult a professional counselor, grief therapist, or attorney to explore other options. Your aunt is fortunate to have you in her corner.