How to we deal with moving my mother-in-law into our home?

1 answer | Last updated: Sep 20, 2016
Kagart asked...

My mother-in-law is 70 years old and has AD. She is currently in an autonomous apartment in a facility, but we want to move her into our home as she is always alone, and has begun to have severe paranoia, delusions, etc, and is getting much worse. The option is to move her to the memory care floor, but we just can't do that to her, she is otherwise healthy and is just very lonely and bored. We have hired a live-in caregiver and have the room for her, but are just not sure how to do it. Do we tell her she is moving in with us, and have her be part of the move, or do we organize the move without her knowledge and set her room up at our home and bring her there? I want to make it as easy and stress free as possible for her, but I know the transition will be difficult either way. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!


Expert Answers

Donna Quinn Robbins is the author of Moving Mom and Dad and On the Road of Life, Drive Yourself. She helps individuals, families, retirement communities, and corporations make successful transitions through her company, Ultimate Moves. Robbins is an active public speaker on the topic of senior transition services and has appeared on NBC's Today Show.

"How to tell my mother-in-law she's moving in with us". From what you have said, I am concerned about moving your mother to your home. It sounds as though she is going to need care you and a caregiver can not provide. I would strongly suggest speaking with the people at the community and also her doctor before moving her.