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Dementia Delusions: Possible to Correct Her? Should I?
An anonymous caregiver said...
I'm new to this group. I've been looking for a place to share and ask questions. I care for a lady who blames her husband for everything. At lucid moments she knows she has Alzheimer's; other times she thinks he is just trying to control her. Should I correct her? Or is it even possible? Any tips are appreciated.
Stumper said...
Hafa Adai Chris, I wish to echo the comment made my Sherona, except for the head banging part. Just listening takes the startch out of a lot of issues, even if you have to listen to the same issue lots of times a day.
Stumper
BJGARRY said...
You're welcome, sherona.
BJ
sherona said...
Oh, wow. That is the also the case here. Very controlling husband. The photo albums sound like a good idea! Thank you for the tip!
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Managing Medications: Does Stress Impact Effectiveness?
Suzayne said...
My dad has been in alot of pain with his arthritis the last few weeks with head and neck problems. He hasn't been able to drive and my mom who has Alzheimers has been doing the best she can to take care of him. She was put on Aricept back in March and was doing remarkably well, taking part in conversations and seemed quite bubbly. She has been under stress worrying about dad and has done a complete turn around. She talks non stop all the time now, wanting to talk to people she hasn't seen for 20 years. Getting things all mixed up again, she has lost 15 pounds and is not eating well. And she has been really loud vocally about everything. She keeps repeating the same thing over and over about not loosing her marbles, wanting to see her Dr every week. It's almost like this stress over my dad has put her in a decline. She's saying she doesn't have long to live? My Mom was always a typical lady, quiet and never spoke out of place. Now she is yelling at my dad in a restaurant. Has anyone ever confronted this? Does stress make your medication go out of whack? Please help. I have talked to her Dr 3 days ago but have had no response. She even bought a $3500 filter queen from a salesman that come to the door!!!
A fellow caregiver said...
She is awake at all hours. My Dad is still working in the family business and he doesnt get much rest most nights.
She works herself up into anger a lot. Probably due to her and Dads relationship through the years. I dont really know what her future holds but I will always do my best for her. I just hope it will be good enough.
Chris Ballard said...
The hallucinations must be awful to live thru, and to know how to deal with! I think it's a fairly common symptom. Good that you were able to come up with something to set her mind at rest.
Oh my gosh, if I went to sleep at 5 I'd be up at midnite for the rest of the nite. I hope I don't ever do that! lol! I don't know why it makes a difference to me when what I do is read for the most part, but I want to be sleeping when it's dark, and some days it just doesn't work out that way. I've been waking about 4AMish for the most part this week.
Hugs to all!
Chris
A fellow caregiver said...
It isnt uncommon for inappropriate behavior in public when someone with AD is stressed or having an "off" day. I agree that she needs to be seen by a doctor if it isnt back to normal in the nxt day or so. I never know when my moms behavior warrants a visit so I have just started calling them for their advice.
I dread taking Mom to restaurants but that is usually place I can geth her to go IF she will even go. She is so rude to the waiters and she thinks it has taken way too long for the food when we may have just given our order. She thinks people are staring at us sometimes and she has yelled at the staff before, Next time she may be perfectly fine..like Monday when we went. She started to get aggravated about the time so I kept reminding her what time we got there etc. She was always a very nice person and sometimes I am shocked at the hatefulness and anger I see in her ) :
My mom has started having..well I dunno if they are hallucinations..but imagining things. The landscape guy was here this morning and she thought he was stealing boxes my daughter has packed up out in the garage. I finally just had to tell her that Jamie had sent a friend over to get some of her stuff. I hate to lie but it did ease her mind.
I can't get her motivated to do much of anything,she wont even get up off the couch most days unless it is to go to her bed. She wants her sleep meds as early 5pm sometimes. I have started hiding them and call her and let her know where they are..if I havent called by 8pm she calls me.
This is a struggle for us all and I already love this group and am so glad I found you all..I have added all to my prayers
Senior Finances: How Do I Get Mom's Money Under Control?
An anonymous caregiver said...
Bad day today. I think I am feeling sorry for myself. I am still trying to wrap my head around all of this. I am having an issue taking over my mothers finances. I am able too but didn't ever think this was a roll I would have to play. She has left her purse lay in public areas, told me she only had a bunch of tens and then started pulling twenties out of her purse. She told me the other day she had to go to the bank I asked why she said she had no checks left. I asked to look at her check book yesterday and she had plenty of checks left. We just found out what was going on with her a few months ago so am still trying to unravel all of this. She wasn't eating and had lost a lot of weight. The longest she has gone with out changing her clothes is four days. But she is fine thank you very much. gotta love them lol.
charlary said...
Oh tizzy you have had it rough too. You love that baby from the time you know it is there. You talk to it you dream about what it is going to be you picture it's little face. Yes I think miscarriges have got to be just as traumatic. At least we that lost ours in an older age got to see them grow and got to see what lovley people they were. Oh yes miscarriages are a tragedy
Tizzy said...
Ohh, not so Gatfly! Those miscarriages also count! With a miscarriage you lose all your hopes and dreams for that child. It can be just as mind numbing as any other loss of a child. I've had 2 miscarriages and two tubal pregnancies by the time I was 21. That's why I only had the one child and he died in a car accident 26 years later. I had a hysterectomy at 33. And my butt is wide, wide, wide! You'd think I'd be excellent for childbearing!!
Tizzy
charlary said...
Thank you for the kind words
Alzheimer's Symptoms: When's the Right Time for Medication?
An anonymous caregiver said...
How do u know when it's time to but someone on a medication for this dementia? My poor mom gets in these paranoid states looking for her checkbook, she hides everything because she doesn't trust anyone, so sad :(
staryskies said...
hope things are better with you angel stary
Sue922 said...
Hugs to you Angel48195
Sue922
Angel48195 said...
Thank you all :)
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