What kind of legal action can I take to care for my mother, who has got cognitive issues?
i am member of my kids family an we have had death in two years straight now again i dont have any money until 25
I have 2 sisters in a nursing home which has a locked ward where patients from the dept. justice are brought in and mixed w/the "traditional residents." We have no recourse. I was told that MCKaskil's husband owns the chain of nursing homes my sister is in. It frightens me that they put these people together--as for HIV, I supose this isn't necessarily an HIV person who has a "legal" past, but yes it would frighten me. Seems anything is legal today if our wealthy people decide it is, if our politically connected people say it is. I'm so sorry--wish I could help more. Nursing homes are horrible--no matter how fancy their lobbies are--they're terrible.
Without having her go to a doctor to get evaluated to see if your mom is suffering from some form of dementia, I get a strong feeling that getting her to sign any type of legal document to assist her, for example a power of attorney might also be an extremely difficult task.
does your mother have a regular PCP? Has she been with them for awhile? Meaning that do they have a long standing relationship where a call from him or her might help ease her concerns even if you have to fib a bit?
You can always try and I only recommend this as I had to do itis use a little tom foolery if you can. When my therapist wanted to met my mom or suggested to go to a different dr. for something else, just as a consult or preliminary kind of check-up, hopefully this can work. I told my mom that I had to see a Dr. and i was very nervous and could she come with me for support and hold my hand. I would say it isn't because of bad news, just that I don't want to go alone. I also told her that my Doctor has heard so many wonderful things about you from me and he would really like to meet the woman behind those 'wonderful ' stories. A few examples can be useful to, 'seal the deal'? Even with out the smoke and mirrors, what about time for a flu shot, a different Doctor maybe. from what you say and it isn't a lot, but I get the impression your mom isn't very far along in whatever is happening to her. Please don't be so quick to slap a big A on it right away. I mean that in a positive way. there are many different things it could be, those issues are not always Alzheimers, but she does need to get seen, in my opinion
I would definitely speak to her Dr if possible, a family attorney, again one she knows and trusts goes a long way. I do not recommend any sort of trickery in regard to legal matters, please I want to make that clear. I only use it as for a trip to the Doc. the sad irony is that the worse your mom gets, the easier it wil be to get her to go with you to see a Dr. Alz. is always best treated early as many here will tell you.
Think! you can can come up with something. Do not be afraid to ask for help, a little kindness sometimes comes from the strangest places
Billy
