MMark
Caring for my mom Member since November 11, 2010When I first signed up for Caregiving.com my parents lived 1000 miles away and I attempted to do caregiving long distance, visiting 3 times a year, and hiring a person to fill the pill boxes. Calling mom to make sure they took their meds. My mother is a caregiver for my dad who has advanced dementia. My mother is also suffering dementia in the mild to moderate stage.
But my father stubbornly refused change the living arrangements for several years. I wanted them both to move into a house next to me. (I'm the only son). He emphatically stated he wanted to "die in his house". They lived in the same town I was born in. But my mom has always told me she wanted to move here.
It was clear that long distance caregiving is an oxymoron. At best it is just inadequate, at worst there are constant new problems associated with long distance caregiving. Finally I absolutely insisted they move here into an assisted care facility. At first mom seemed convinced that she should move. I visisted again and through a back and forth process it was agreed they would move here and once they told family/friends/and church people, the "move date" moved up. I brought them last week 5-6-11. The three rooms of furniture they had to downsize to should be here tomorrow morning and they are staying with me right now.