I am fiduciary and care giver for
my dad, have to be through the VA his fiduciary. I am currently on disability and that is the reason I was able to care for my mom till she died and now my dad. Due to the time I put in as a caregiver and filling out endless forms and doctor records through the VA and the state I have little to no time for much else. I started filing his taxes 3 years ago, but after hours and hours at H&R Block have barely gotten his return for 2010 done, which I realized I had not put a bunch of deductions on that I ought to have. I have gotten extensions since. I have receipts but have no idea if he will owe taxes or not. The year I started doing them we had to use his money to make handicapped accessible this home. We had to meet standard requirements for home safety in order for the state to even allow him to live here. Our house, which had not been remodeled at all since my mom bought it 40 years ago and left it to us, was fraught with dangers, including mold, electrical problems, no walls in most of the upstairs, animals living under the floors and getting in through the old roof. For the safety of all of us, and for the accommodations for dad, we spent 100,000. of his money to make this home safe and state approved for him to live here. For that year I paid the IRS some 10,000. toward the bill which still has an outstanding balance on it. I realized after many visits to H&R Block that only the plumbing was deductible from the dissolving of his stocks, which have that estate tax on them. My concern is that when dad is gone, what do I do about the not filed IRS returns and what if money is still owed to them? Who is then responsible? He owns no home, his car and all his belongings were stolen by an ex girlfriend who moved him out of state the day she discovered he had Alzheimers. She changed the Will to all her, but we took his original Will and made it an irrevocable trust, at which point she had sent him here for me to watch him and then refused to ever see him again. She sold his car and his many valuables I have no idea what she did with. I have no access to any of that anymore. Now he lives on SSI and a VA Pension which barely covers his cost of living, and often I am putting some of my measly 700./month disability into his care costs. I tried to hire him an attorney but they charged me 400. to walk through the door, did nothing but retrieve his records from his former attorney and sent me a bill for over 700. more! I never paid that bill and do not think I should be responsible for it either. My greatest concern however is the IRS, can they come after me? All I own is my 14 year old car and half the house I live in, I have no assets, no money in the bank. I live day to day barely, and it costs so much just to feed him etc that there is not a dime left to pay anyone. Who is responsible for not filed IRS returns after someone dies if money is somehow owed? I doubt these past two years will amount to much owed as there was only his SS and VA Pension all of which goes to his care and is recorded with the VA. I am still trying to pay for his cremation which is 3,000. and have no idea how I will even do that. The VA pays for all burial except the cremation. If anyone has any ideas on this please let me know. As far as I can tell he will have debt when he dies and I will probably lose my home as I alone cannot afford to pay to live here. While I get 600./month from the VA to care for him that entire amount and then some goes to bills for this house. When he goes and I lose that 600./month I will no longer be able to even live here, so what happens then? I sell my half of the house, my brother owns the other half, and do what? There is already a lien on my house for a credit card debt from decades ago. It is only 1600. So there it is, house is liened, I own half, dad is so hard to care for but the kindest man I have ever known. He has ALZ, Parkinson's, spinal stenosis, arthritis, no longer walks or feeds himself, and is on a special pureed diet with supplements that cost me a fortune, but I HAVE to I WANT to take care of him. PLEASE help me figure out my next move. I had to quit teaching due to going on life support from COPD, where is all this going to leave me and my youngest son who still lives with me. Help if you can. ty and God bless everyone of you who cares for you parents, it is the right thing to do! D.