Unable to make choices, even with help

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I am having a hard time getting my mom to eat. She has lost so much weight but she had cancer and went through radiation so I thought it was from that at first but not anymore. That ended in Jan. She goes to bed at very odd times of the day as early as 4 in the afternoon. It is hard giving her her meds when she goes to bed so early. My biggest concern is her not eating and going to bed so early.

Joe dos not go to the health club anymore, he also dos not walk anymore except on the tread mill , he got lost a while ago on his walk and it took us 2 oures to find him. So that was the end of the walking. He is in to coloring I bay kids color books and he sits for oures on the table with that and loves it? I can't think of what will hapened next. So sad for a man that allways was busy

My dad lights up when I come to visit, and during the visit if I leave and come back. It is like he sees me for the first time every time I re-enter the room. I think he recognizes me, but doesn't ever say my name. Same for my mom, but she keeps asking him "Do you know who I am?" Any thoughts?

Joe has gone to a health club for years, now often he do's not want to go' That keeps me from doing things on my own sins I use to have do's two oures for my self. I trey to get him to go but a couple of times After I dropped himoff. he came back out and just set outside waithing for me to pick him up.of cours I can not let that happened .I do not know what to do about that?

Dad struggles with a menu in a restaurant, but his tactic is to order exactly what my mother orders. It used to upset my mother, but now she goes with it. Sometimes, when I'm in a restaurant with them, and I know his favorite meal there, I remind him that the ribs are good, and he'll go with that. More often, though, I try not to stress out and let him order what my mom orders. Mom selects his meals for him in the dining room at the Sr. community, which is fine with him.

Thank you for the information. It was helpful. I need to learn more and hope I can cope with the future.

It's helpful to know it's OK to make choices for my mother. I have been reluctant to take that on because I wanted her to remain as independent as possible for as long as possible. Now it's time to take that next step.

For a time my emotions were manageable, but as the disease progresses it taking a toll on my entire family. Guilt, sadness and hopelessness.

gives me more insight

My dear mother-in -law is at this early severe point. I have wondered where she is in the Alzheimer stages. I do try to be calm which is much easier for me than some family members. My husband has a hard time accepting this illness with all the emotional toll. Sadly his father died of Alzheimers 2 yrs. ago.

It is very stressful .Its like the disease is playing with the care givers mind one minute she is nice and in flash it can change. but i am thankful for the help u give me it helps

It tells me what I have tried is the right thing to do. although almost all the time the answer is no .no I m not hungrey no i dont want to things like that.

Knowing it is alright to make the decision for him. I was trying to let him make his choices and it usually leaves me upset and stressed.Eating is when I get most stressed, as he doesent seem to remember when to use his utinsils. Thanks again for all your helpful intormation.