Living alone and caring for yourself
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4 months ago
M wife of 49 years died from brain cancer six months ago. Five months before, she has a major stroke, caused by bleeding from the tumor, was partially paralyzed and eventually lost the ability to speak and swallow. It was ghastly and beyond horrendous. She and i were both 73 when she died. My grown, married sons, and grandchildren live either and hour or two hours from me. All of our married friends have slowly drifted away, almost never call. My sons call 4-5 times a week. I'm in a support group that meets twice a month and i talk with two social workers, every week with one and twice a month with the other. Still, the isolation and loneliness is crushing. I do see a divorced woman my age about once a week or so but, so far, it seems it's only for companionship and friendship, not to any extent being intimate (which I want). Even should that happen, for a number of reasons I very much doubt being able to be with her 24/7. I don't really want to leave my house, free standing in a suburb of NYC, and moving to an adult community might not end my isolation either. Any advice for me?
Ava Maria said...
over 1 year ago
On Thursday, March 24, 2016 I lost my husband to a rare heart disease. He died in the hospital. My husband had been sick for one year and 3 months. Now I am alone but not really. In 1979 I formed a great relationship with God and always believed that God would help me and all I have to do is ask. Now I am having the worst situation in my life. I am grateful I was given time to get ready for this. With God's help I formed friendships to help me through his illness. I also called my cousins and one is very supportive. I also have a beautiful little dog that is like a grandma constantly around and checking in on me when I cry. I was on a different site on caring.com and got a lot of help and hugs there. I feel fear about being alone now but each day it gets a tiny bit better. I am a painter and painting teacher. Painting helps a lot. If anyone here feels alone and would like to email me please do. I understand what it is like to feel alone and things that help with the situation. God bless all of you.
over 1 year ago
Hello. I am 49 and unmarried. There were times when I believed bachelorhood as freedom. And I really enjoyed it too. But now things has changed. I need someone to love me. I know love is not something that you can buy or get. I was never in love. I am not bluffing! I have registered in a matchmaking service in Toronto, Premier Introductions. I don’t know how far would it help. Had any experiences?
bob mac said...
over 1 year ago
i'm a 61 yr/old male who is just about yo finish Harvoni treatment for Hep-c .Also taken anti-depressant for years and just started on a different type of medicine as the Doctor was unaware that previous meds. were'nt working only because had a like panic attack and sent to Psche. hospital only to be told it was a medical problem not a psche problem !?? So started a uot patient program and started seeing a new doctor who recognized that the old meds. wasn't working and switched meds.. Took awhile for new anti-depressant to start feeling better but going much better . Then there is the chronic case of Migraines that took a year or more to get somewhat better medication to maintain the 'aura's % vision disturbing problems and pain ..So all my previous social events are gone and stuck in house but starting to get use to it ..but still need a good trusting group to attend that is easy going, still looking around . For now I use F.B. AND read the Bible which helps the moody and lonely times along with up beat music . Reading magazines until start to ache .My one adult son lives about 10 mi. away and other daughter and son live far away. There has been a falling out with them ,about a issue of trust and betrayal that they don't contact me . I attemted to get a counselor to mediate the problem but my one son didn't show up for appointment and seems to not want to attend any counseling . So getting use to reaching out to others somehow , between the flare ups of medical problems . Was and still getting medical care at the VA nearby but they are limited in scope of this situation. Still able to mow yard with riding lawn mower ,wash clothes and bath myself but starting to look for help and save money to pay some one to help with pressure cleaning and repairs I just not able to get too. Any way thanks for the time to share ..God Bless, which reminds me that can't make it to church services due to fatigue and pain of head aches ..but praying for healing to start attending again..
An anonymous caregiver said...
about 2 years ago
I physically have become dependant on my husband. I cannot live alone, we planned on a new life after his kids graduated, they were supposed to go live with their mother. Out of spite he told them do not move. The stress that I have gone through with them has only harmed me physically. Out of nowhere he wants a divorce and me out. Im only 45 and had it all before a spinal cord injury. What are my options? I just feel like dying after years of fighting to make it through a day. I do not know what to do and death doesn't welcome me. I have no family left, I wouldn't burden any of the few friends I have that are still living. I love my husband he loves me, I am like I am partly from neglect from him. I have never been so scared besides the worse of my suffering. What can I do?
Broken in everyway
about 2 years ago
I am having a hard time coming back home after leaving my home for five years.. She is in skilled nursing which breaks my heart. Every time I go to see her I come back sad. Now that I am home I find that I am not interested in the things I used to do. Yard work, planting flowers. I'm just not myself anymore. How do I come back to take care of myself?
naturally sweet said...
over 2 years ago
I am a mother of 6 adult children 25 Grand-children and 18 0r 19 Great-Grand children. all children are grown now, I don't know what to do with me, all I have done is work and raise children. I don't know what I would like to do, what I don't to do is to do it with my children. maybe grand children but not children. What to do with me is my problem. I am a church member , I sig in the choir , I am apart of a women group I visit the sick I work , nothing really make sense to me . I don't know what to do with me. I am alone not lone.
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