Caregiving at Home
This online support group for in-home care discussions connects caregivers, family, friends, and others with an interest in aging in place. Get tips, advice, and support for your in-home care questions or concerns. Post best practices and success stories. Share about your in-home care experiences or challenges with others who understand. Ask for feedback or exchange ideas to help optimize aging in place for older adults.
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2 days ago
Anyone have advice on telling my brother about the death of our little sister?? I'm so afraid I'm wrong for this but I have told him & watched him grieve 4 times already he forgets every time so when he asked about her the other day I just found ways to change subject I couldn't bring myself to tell him & watch him grieve for our sister a 5th time!!!!
5 days ago
I'm beyond exhausted this morning I don't know how many more days like the past cpl I can take!!! I spent all day year day & last night feeling heartbroken 1 minute & angry the next! I'm at my breaking point with hearing ppl tell my brother how he could remember things ETC if he will just try harder!!!! What is wrong with ppl am I the only person that feels like smacking someone in the mouth for making someone with this or any disease feel they are in anyway to blame for their illness?? My older brother is 39 we have no immediate family left & the ones we do have are horrible to him I'm choosing to flip out on here other than lose it with them or accidentally cry or say something wrong to my brother this isn't his fault not in the least bit I pray I can make it thru today & things somehow get better;((
10 days ago
How do i find local support groups for family caregivers? I have home health workers in my home most of the time but they add more stres to my life because i am consumed by overseeing their lack of care and poor work ethic. Someone suggested that a support group would be helpful because it's hard for others to understand what I'm going through.
21 days ago
Our 35 year old daughter just suffered with a stroke. She has no spouse or boyfriend so I'm pretty much her part-time caretaker. My husband has had a long-term illness and disability. Right now he is in surgery for repair to his eye after an accident. We have a farm and I will be doing chores until he recovers. My parents and sister also have health issues and as I am the oldest daughter I help them. So much more but the bottom line is be is that I'm about to have a melt-down. My stress level is horrible. Help!
about 1 month ago
I often wonder two things: (1) what my life would be like had I not married my wife 29 years ago - I know it would be radically different as marriages carve out their own realities, (2) what my life would be like if she passed-over tomorrow, and how I;d handle it.
With MS, the primary cause of death that I have read is suicide. I get that people get to a point where life is no longer working for them and it is torture for some to keep going; I think we need to see our life through to the natural end whether it be a being "hit by a bus" or never waking up one day. I'm not wishing anything bad for her, I just have guilt wondering sometimes rather than staying in the moment here and now.
I really like the movie "Lost In Translation" and the fleeting/touching relationship that bonded Bob and Charlotte. Charlotte is lonely, newly married, feels ignored (seriously, who could ignore Scarlett Johansson!) by her husband as she accompanies him to Japan while he works all the time. Bob is there for a photo shoot for a commercial, his glory acting days are behind him and his marriage has become hum-drum back home. They meet (30 year age gap) and have a really nice touching moment in their lives for a few days that they will always remember (no physical affair). I sometime wish this could happen to me. Either you really like this movie or you really don't - there seems to be no in-between. I've easily seen it a dozen times. I had one relationship like this that was fleeting, and I've always wondered if I missed out on what might have been my soulmate. At least I had this one time, and it was very, very good.
Does this make me an unfit husband?
OK, earth is call me back.
about 1 month ago
Hi my husband's aging father needs to have an at home caregiver who can do errands and take him to appointments. However, he is across the country and my husband and I want to make sure he has someone who will not take advantage of him in any way. I have looked in ads, looked at a couple of caregiver websites but it's very important that he also clicks with the right person. How do we manage this?
about 1 month ago
I am a grandmother and guardian of my 19 y/o granddaughter. We live in FL and there is no company available to come and help with her in home care such as bathing or respite. so that I can get out occasionally. I am in a bind. She has a feeding tube and none of the local in home care businesses will take care of her. I also have a hoyer lift and that is an issue also. Any suggestions...
2 months ago
To not go into all the drama, I have a room mate that makes disgusting messes when he uses the bath room. He deny's that it is him, and if pressed, will go off in a rage.. I have to use this same bathroom and stepping in urine and a toilet seat with both urine and feces on it is really pushing me to my limit. I can't afford to move right now. The other room mate would always clean it and stay quiet about it. Now I don't what I can do. I have talked with his older brother ad he's no help. I have purchased expensive urinal mats,..it doesn't seem to matter. I have suggested a once a week visit with a nurse to come in and help him with bathing and toileting. He will throw them out he says. Any suggestions, tips, tricks...anything will be appreciated!
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