Heart & Stroke Support Group
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about 1 month ago
My mom, age 73, had a thalamic stroke in May 2017. She is a musician and directs many musicals throughout the year and is the music director in a church. She cares for our 5 year old son with autism and has always had a go-go-go personality. Since her stroke she has become depressed and withdrawn which we expected. We got her on an antidepressant and into therapy but the antidepressant isn't working how she/we hoped and she's trying others. The biggest problem has been driving as her doctor has not released her to drive yet. She has a neuropsych exam next week which will help her neurologist determine if she's safe to drive. With her busy lifestyle this has been the source of much depression and tears and she now has said that if her doctor tells her she can't drive "she's done." She confirms that this means she's going to kill herself. Of course this is beyond frightening for our family and she seems to be void of emotion when she talks about it (maybe thalamic-related, I don't know). I am a mental health provider so have done my own assessment for ideation and immediacy and feel that she is safe with what we have in place for now (support, people around her, grandchildren). The problem will come in if she is told she can't drive which will be in the next month or so. I know how to handle if someone is suicidal, but I don't know how to handle it coming from my mom. We are very close and as the person who spends the most time with her (we live in the downstairs of her home so she can be with our son when he has therapy in our home). Has anyone else been through suicidality after a stroke? She has no physical issues or pain and gets around fine. We are feeling quite helpless.
2 months ago
So confused! So it's been 2 and 1/2 years since my husbands stroke and it's definitely changed our lives. He is 43 and I'm 41, our marriage isn't the same,nor is he the same , there's no affection, love making, nothing, I've taken on the roll as the caregiver and I'm no longer the wife. Physically he's fine, but it has affected him mentally. I'm so confused, do I hang in there and hope for things to change, and keep fighting or is this what I have to deal with for the rest of my life, I do everything, and I'm stressed to my max, very frustrated, mad, angry, and sad all at the same time, what do I do?
2 months ago
What can I do about my dad's long term care if he cannot be taken care of at home and the rehab center is sending him home anyway? My father had a stroke and is currently in acute rehab. My mother is not well, caring for him in their home is not an option. A week ago we were told he would be moved to a long term care facility. This week they told us he'd be able to come home in 2 weeks time. Nothing has changed over the last week, other than the insurance company declined our request for long term care.
Carolyn. Livingston said...
2 months ago
I will be 80 in July and I am asking questions about stroke because I had a stroke 5 years ago. I live at home and am doing very well My husband is 87 and he has Sundowners dementia. We have wonderful children and nighttime sitter. So I!m just asking for myself.
3 months ago
My mother is 88, has COPD, was in the hospital for two weeks about two months ago when she had to have emergency hernia surgery, and has some heart failure. Her feet and ankles have had swelling since she got out of the hospital. Her legs are now swollen up to the thigh. She lives in assisted living. She is having some more confusion. The RN who is on site is having labs run for a urinary tract infection.
I'm supposed to go out of town next week. It's a trip with my husband who has been treated for aggressive cancer (surgery 8 months ago) and lost his brother to cancer (7 months ago). I'm scared to go. We have arranged for my 30 year old nephew to be on call while we are gone. Should I cancel this trip?
I know my mother could die tomorrow or in two years. I don't know what to do.
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