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14 days ago

I want to answer some people here, but when I type in a response and click on "submit", nothing happens.

14 days ago

ErinAnn said...

about 1 month ago

My husband was dx w/ms over10 yrs ago. He's the love of my life. He's always been my knight in shining armor. For the past 3yrs he has become increasing cruel. I was39 when he first called me lifeless&barren because I didn't have kids. We've been married 21yrs.I'm 41now and he still says it. My problem is it rings in my head. How do I get over it.

ErinAnn said...

about 1 month ago

Ladymiller said...

about 1 month ago

Jackrabbit said...

about 1 month ago

How do you get past the insults and cut downs from parent you caring for. Been on my on for 30 years, she's done it all my life always could leave it behind but caring for my parent I can't do that and I'm? also working full-time plus on a job and my husband stays with her during the day.

14 days ago

Ladymiller said...

13 days ago

Lann said...

6 months ago

Does anyone have advice 4 me?I know I'm not perfect either.But,I try 2 act respectfully.So,how do I keep coping with my hubby's impatience(acting like I'm a bother)&defensiveness.Thx!

Forestchild said...

5 months ago

6 months ago

My mother (who I never got along with, she's been verbally, & physically abusive my whole life) I survived by leaving quickly & far away most of my life... is showing signs of dimentia, inisists that I help her & dad who is in hospital, He;s 90 shes 88. I have been helping for 2-3 months now. I feel totally trapped. I want to return to my own home, but feel guilty about leaving m Dad in hospital. I hate almost every moment in my Parents home, I feel like I am in some velvet jail. Nothing, not one room is in my control, not one moment of my life is peaceful . I feel badgered, put down, pushed toward financial poverty & totally disappearing from my normal happy self. Because i am over 1000 miles away from my own residence, work, & store....my friends are also hard to contact or communicate with...plus who wants to even hear MY problems....... DO I HAVE TO DO THIS I don't want the final years of my life wasted by my awful Mother......

Forestchild said...

5 months ago

TerriK said...

8 months ago

My Dad is in early dementia. He yells my name all night, and now daily. I can't even go to the bathroom anymore. Losing my mind . I'm a stroke victim myself. Vascular dementia. Making me even more nuts. Help.!

TerriK said...

8 months ago

Beyond Tired said...

about 1 month ago

Sunshinedana said...

9 months ago

Hello,God Bless anyone who takes the time to read this long post. I am writing today about my brother and my parents. I'm so worried and concerned I don't know what to do and I hope and pray that someone reading this can offer some kind of guidance in this situation because I honestly do not know what to do. Here's the situation; my 39 yr. old brother still lives at home with our parents. It's like he got stuck in adolescence mentally. He has never been able to work because of these issues so zero work history.Also, zero friends, social life or anything outside of my parents home since he was a early teenager and his only friend moved away. My major concern is his violet outbursts with my parents who are in their mid 60's each with health issues of their own. My dad can not walk without a cane and still he stumbles around from the neuropathy in his legs/feet. My brother fights with them daily and he has torn up a lot of stuff in the house. Like I said he behaves as if he is an out of control teenager. It has got violet in the past and over the years between my dad and him.. My mom says she believes he could be schizophrenic.too.. I .really fear for their safety because I know my mom doesn't tell me half of it but my dad has told me a lot more that's why I fear he will hurt my parent's one day. There are also complicated layers to this also. Having no income my parents have always supported him however they can not afford his care and theirs too on their little SS check and he has not been cared for properly because because of it. They have tried before to get welfare for him it's not available according to the Dept. of social services of Gaston county for adult males. He has gone before to health dept for his mental health issues but does not/will not keep appts. or take the meds proscribed. He now has dental health issues and medical issues of his back but there has been no insurance for him since my mom worked for a company back in the 90's. (after that she owned a business for about 10 years but struggled always just to keep it afloat so never could afford any insurance for them) What resources are their to help a situation like this? They need financial help and help with my brother's care. I think my parents need to get some kind of help but what steps need to be taken because thus far their efforts for getting help from social services have failed.

A little back story, we are the only two children of my parents. I'm 46 and my brother and I are 7 years apart. We were never close and I moved out from my parents when I was 17 and have been married now for for 26 years.It's weird but my brother doesn't show this side to me he acts quiet and reserved around me but I do remember a lot of mental health issues with him and also he use to threaten suicide all the time with my parents. Please, if you know of anything they can do to get help I would love to know and be able to help them. Thank you so much for reading!

Cbnew said...

9 months ago

kpe said...

10 months ago

My 83 year old mother was diagnosed several years ago with frontal lobe dementia. She is no longer able to verbally communicate. After my father passed away three years ago, mom required full time care. We hired two sitters, who alternate weeks staying in mom's home, to assist my siblings and I in caregiving. Over the past several months, mom's combative behavior has increased significantly. Her medication has been adjusted in an attempt to address the behavior, and it has helped, but mom's moods continue to fluctuate quickly and when she's angry, she pushes, slaps, and hits. In fact,mom's behavior has become so erratic, that one of the sitters actually feared for her safety at times and recently quit. We have visited several assisted living and nursing home facilities in our area, as we were told by mom's neurologist that there would come a point in time where in home care would no longer be an option. Because of mom's combative behavior, we realize we are now at that point. We had hoped that an assisted living facility with an Alzheimer's/dementia unit would be a viable option. However, the director at the facility explained to us that if a patient becomes combative, the family is contacted and required to bring the patient to an ER or a behavioral facility, so the behavior can be addressed medically. Only then can the patient be readmitted to the assisted living facility. Our family did not want mom to have to go back and forth between facilities due to her behavior; therefore, we are now only considering nursing homes. I am really struggling with this. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

caw1952 said...

7 months ago

Steer said...

11 months ago

Hi. My mother is schizophrenic and no real studies or how to handle her. I've been trying my best for over 20 years to just be her friend and I'm her daughter. She was in independent living for about 6 or so years and then went into assisted living for about 2+ years and now in complete care facility. She has deteriorated and I know she is dad, but puts on a happy face for me.

11 months ago

Forestchild said...

about 1 year ago

Hello, I'm new to this group and need some practical advice, especially from anyone familiar with the laws in Oregon. Here's what is going on: My husband and I separated several years ago. Since then he has lost first a middle toe and then the opposite leg to diabetes. When his leg was amputated, he contracted pneumonia in the hospital , had a heart attack in ICU, and crashed. He was on life support for 72 hours and we (myself and our 3 grown kids) didn't know if he would ever regain consciousness - it was all pretty traumatic. Thankfully though he did come out of it. (This was three years ago.) He came home with what seemed to be some signs of mild dementia. These always get worse if he is injured or ill. (One problem is, I'm always the last person to know if he's injured or ill, because he keeps things from me and often outright lies.) Skip to today - he is back in the hospital with an infected big toe and foot, and today or tomorrow he's having the toe amputated. He knew for days that if he had to return to the hospital due to infection, this would be happening. I had no idea that this was the plan with his doctor, until today - he called and said good morning, they're removing my toe today or tomorrow. (This is a typical shock in my life these days.) I (and the rest of his family plus our kids) understood the plan to be, the hospital would give him IV antibiotics to kill the infection, then send him home to await the date of his surgery. I apologize for rambling - what I actually need, is to find out if I have any rights to information about his care plans and his his health conditions. We are still legally married though separated; I am not officially his caregiver but guess what I am actually his caregiver; I don't live at his house (formerly our house) but I spent so much time here that my own place is an expensive closet. I realize I'm being codependent with him, but at this point I am not emotionally prepared to set firm boundaries and watch him break down and cry. I do still love him, I'm afraid of losing him (which is already in the cards if nature takes its course) - and this is just hard. I'm searching for a local support group and trying to set up some counseling for myself - does anyone know what agency or person I might turn to for information about any legal rights I might have ? BTW a huge complicating factor is, his GP doc is a monster that neither one of us trusts, but this doctor is also in charge of my husband's pain meds. So my husband is afraid to approach this doctor about anything, afraid he will either lose his pain meds or be ordered into a nursing home. The whole nursing home thing against his will, is one more thing I don't have legal information about.. Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you.

Ladymiller said...

6 months ago

Forestchild said...

5 months ago

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