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My husband of 37 years is 70 years old. He takes meds for high blood pleasure, diabetes, irregular heart beat. He smokes 2 1/2 packs of cig. a day. He sleeps with a c-pap. He has had his hip replaced. He is loosing his strength and feeling in his hands. He eats, sleeps, smokes and watches TV. has hard time getting around.. His doctor has told him all the things that he is doing wrong but it is like he hears him but does not care. Why is he eating, sleeping all the time.? We have lived in our home for 22 years and we were in the grocery store and the cashier asked where he lived. He could not remember our towns name.. Am I loosing my husband. What can I do.
Im stuck with parents who are seriously mentally ill and they wont admit that, nor try to fix themselves. They argue all the time and put the blame on me. They're really narcissistic and way too much to handle. I'm 100% my mom is bipolar and my dad is a far worse story. They try to make me feel bad for EVERYTHING.
about 1 month
My father-in-law recently passed away. We were texted at 2 am the news. I need to also say that my husband and I had moved back in 1978 away from his hometown. There was no blow up. He just wanted a fresh start. Now all that family is left consists of a cold, distant mother-in-law and coldfish SIL’s. In the writing of his obituary, MIL intentionally left out one of our daughters. This is not an accusation but a sure fact. It had nothing to do with costs. There has never been a fallout with them for her to do this. She is my husband’s step daughter and has been in the family from the beginning almost 41 years, along with there being a step sister, same amount of time. Neither one of them were ever adopted. so why leave our daughter Out and not the other step? Not looking for an answer on that— just venting! We saw first draft and were shocked and saddened that she would leave daughter out of prefuneral family meal and also not mentioned in obit! Both husband and his brother was also not happy with the fact that step sister was listed as daughter!! But FIl’s sister had her own issues with exclusions on her end of things, too. And MIL was asking for a count for the lunch, With is two and two other daughters we were at 6, and with daughter and family we’d be at 11. So husband wrote her to RSVP with that number—really??? And she came back with, we can only take 6!! Are you kidding me?? Now after 41 years of being in the family, she decides to exclude daughter!! After BIL speaking on our behalf to the pastor, all of a sudden we can accompanadate them too!! And by the way with all husbands cousins and our larger family, it was under 40. And lunch was not plated, it was chili and dessert. She was all so sugar running off when we saw her at the lunch. Putting on a good front big time! She has never been that nice to me in her life! Short chat and I sat down. But SIL was snarky with me at the funeral home the night before. I was giving her my condolences and she said you’d be she didn’t want to talk to me and turned on her heels and walked off. I was a bit surprised, but I was not gonna go after her to try to talk- not the time or place! I decided it best to avoid any interaction with her after that. What did I ever do to you i thought?? Can just figure it was because of the conversation about the exclusion bs. That was all between husband and BIL to discuss. She’s a nasty bitch anyway. So I’m better off without her. I also caught her giving my grandkids the stink eye—was staring them down!! Moving on, we can’t really see ourselves visiting with BIL and given the now climate—why?? Any advice on how to handle this situation? I’d like to be cordial in it all for my husbands’s sake.
about 1 month
I am a 22yr old living with and taking care of my 73yr old grandma. I have been clinically depressed for 10yrs due to childhood sexual abuse. I'm in therapy for my own problems but am struggling to keep myself and my grandma afloat. My grandma is a hoarder and I am really struggling to help her sort and toss things out. The more I try to help the more she yells at me. No one else in the family is available to come help me with this. I am trying to help her with this so she can move to live closer to her daughter in a different state.
I completely appreciate the open and honest way those of you who have posted, display. Having come to terms with growing up with two patents who were not well, has made me secretive or extremely private in a way that is starting to cause loneliness problems. Not because I don’t have wonderful people in my life, but because it’s hard for me to be open and up front about my childhood and even adult years. Have any of you found thisnof yourselves?
My mother has claimed the house to herself with her boyfriend who pretends he is a shaman. She pushed my very ill father into a completely separate space on the property and I am not allowed in the house where she stays anymore either. She says the most hurtful things a mother could ever say to me, she tries to convince me that I am mentally ill and threatens to get me evaluated, picked up by the cops - because I screamed at her, trying to let her in some way understand what she is doing! I paid her rent this month to stay in a tent in a garden and now she is forcing me to move, claiming the money I gave her and refusing to repay me. I had planned to move to my own place by the end of the month because I could not afford it this month yet, but I am worried about my dad, he cannot afford another lawyer, nor can I. The house is for sale and my mother is simply waiting here with her boyfriend to receive the money from the sale, they both are not employed. This situation has made me feel insane at times and it has been incredibly difficult to function normally.
My sister (A) has a degenerative physical disease and I believe the beginning of a cognitive issue. "A" has always had a chip on her shoulder regarding our oldest sister (B). In the last 18 months, "B" has helped her move out of her house, sell the house, gotten her into an assisted living facility, and recently moved her into a different Assisted living facility because the first one has indicated they couldn't have her stay. "A" has shown "B" no respect or appreciation for all the work she has done and blames "B" for trying to control her life when all she was doing was helping. I try to reassure "B" that she is doing the right thing and "A" is not thinking clearly. It hurts so bad when "B" phones me crying that "A" has done or said something nasty. I'm struggling with how to react to "A". I'm having a hard time accepting the condition of "A". She and I are close in age and I can't believe the cognitive state she is in. In the past, when I speak to "A" on the phone, I listen to all the "nasty" things "B" has done and I don't say much. This last move has been extremely difficult for "B". I'm tempted to tell "A" how mean she is being to "B" but don't what "A" to think I'm ganging up on her. She has always told me I was a good one to talk to. I'm lost at what to do. I have a feeling the situation will get a lot worse if her cognitive issue progresses. I'm looking suggestions to help me deal with "A" declining condition and ways to support "B" as she has to deal with "A" Health condition. I could also use suggestions on how to take over as her financial POA if the situation arises. I don't want her to think I'm controlling her money. Lastly to make matters worse, "A" and "B" live within 100 miles of each other and I live cross country. All of my actions have to be done long distance.
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