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2 days ago
I am a wife of a caretaker. My husband is an only child who has been full time care taking for his parents for over three years. We live in separate houses. It used to be that he would come home for respite two times a week. After his mother passed four months ago, he's been with his father who has early dementia. We both need to work, our finances are crap, and the plan to get him in a nursing care near us seems to have stalled. I've been a physical, emotional, financial, and mental support for my husband through all of it. I'm depressed, alone, and feel like an afterthought in my own marriage. I have said as much to him too, but he seems like he doesn't have any spoons left by the time he gets to me,
7 days ago
I am taking care of my 21 handicapped son. I am divorced but my ex comes over to help with my son. He is very dedicated father. I am very overwhelmed. He attends a day program. My son has a nurse with him at program and I have nursing at night. I also have a home health aid 3 days a week for 4 hours a day, I would think this plenty of help.
24 days ago
Elderly parent in his 90's. 3 adult children all equidistant. 1 caregiver - me. I know it's a classic situation and is quite common. Over time, I have learned to accept full responsibility as both of my siblings, for different reasons, are incapable of being caregivers. I had no choice but to assume the role. Some weeks required 25 hours of my time. My own family life and business suffered greatly as a result. I have finally gotten past the anger and resumed a good relationship with both of my siblings. It has been more than 7 years of major responsibility. For the past 4 years, we have 24 hour live-in home care which has certainly helped quite a bit. All remaining responsibilities are still on me but I now include my siblings in the decision making. I've learned to let go of my anger and instead work on a relationship with my siblings after many years of arguments over dad. I'm glad to have that relationship but I have a great deal of anxiety because my siblings don't know that our dad changed his will. I used to beg my siblings to please step up and be involved in dad's life. Dad was periodically telling me that he wanted to change his will and I would tell them what he said and things would change for a minute and always revert back to same old same old. One day he took it upon himself to change the will. I asked dad to tell my siblings that he changed the will and his response was that he didn't want to ruin the little he gets from them already. I know that he did the right thing. I know that it's fair. Either my siblings would resent me for the change in will or I would resent them for never helping. I prefer the former. I live with the anxiety of having to tell my siblings what our dad did once he passes. My relationship with my siblings means a great deal to me. Any thoughts on how to deal with a situation like this?
27 days ago
I am dealing with helping care for my 88 year old mom with multiple health issue and some dementia, two disabled sisters and a disabled niece....all live in my mothers home. Have recently found out I have some potentially serious health issues that I must get answers to asap. Just overwhelmed
about 1 month ago
Family, Ugh! Have a very narcissist brother that I find very difficult to deal with. Dealing with issues of grief and shows no empathy or compassion for me. I am his only living relative left! He has his own family, never included for family gatherings. I do not get this...... Makes me feel something is wrong with me> HELP!!.
about 1 month ago
This is going to be long. My father is 61 years old. He was in a car accident at the age of 34. His entire left side of his body was basically crushed. He has brain damage from a tire rim hitting him in the back of the head. (This is what I've been told, I was 4.) He was lucky to survive the accident let alone live a normal life. Which he did up until I would say 2005. I graduated from high school and moved away and also joined the Navy. He also was in Katrina. Ever since this my dad has not been the same. Things with his memory have got worse to the point my uncle and I decided to take away his car. He was getting into car accidents and we didnt want to see him or anyone else get hurt. I need to get my dad help. I think some kind of therapy and in home help will work. I just do not know how to go about it. I am also a military wife now. So I am far away. I am lucky that my uncle helps so I have that I just need to know what we need to do.
4 months ago
Hi, My parents live in SW Florida, age 87 and 85, respectively. My siblings and I all live in the northeast quadrant of the country. Both of my folks are fairly clear-minded, with good days and bad days to be expected. Unfortunately, they are both heavy drinkers. Even though they both want my brother to have POA for the two of them, my Dad has been very reticent about actually having POA signed over to said brother. As a result, none of us have guardianship. Several months ago, I contacted the Highway patrol/DMV in their state and signed forms to indicate that with Dad's medical issues and DUI, steps needed to be taken to have his license to drive revoked, which happened. Now, Dad still drives, without license or insurance. Because none of us have POA or guardianship, can we legally take away his keys or the car? I was directed to call the county courts in the town they reside in, but at this point, it seems like a trip down Useless Road! I'll be going down next week to spend some time with the folks. It's sure to be a wonderful trip! Yikes!!
4 months ago
My dad passed away on Valentine's day in 2017 I didn't have any say in how I wanted him to be done or who he should go to. My grandma passed away in June when my mom made arrangements they made the husband and the kids sign even at the age of 12 but I didn't have too when my dad passed away I think I was and they had somebody else sign for me can't I get them in trouble my mom and dad weren't married or in a relationship he was with a pill additic who didn't like me I'm 16 and this k I needed a say in all of it
4 months ago
So I don't even know where to start except with my family history I believe I was about 13 when my parents got divorced Tht had so many effects on me because I always thought it was because of me since they were bitter enough to say that it really messed me up. My siblings were the popular record setting high school athletes and I was not I got a job at 16 and since then my parents have thrown me Out two the wolves provide for yourself and I am 21 now. I still live with my mom even though she kicked me it at 18 I left my dads around June of 2017 my mom is giving me until November to get out, you see the problem is I haven't had a stable job I have been good at since I was 18 other than the first two jobs I have had I have bounced around to probably 10 different employers I have a second chance coming up for a job that pays well more than enough for me to live on my own but I am just so scared I don't have a support group I don't have any friends and my family isn't close I haven't talked to my dad in a month my mom treats me like a child even though I have repadetly asked her to stop she hasn't done that to any of her other kids except me so I ask her to stop she doesn't at one point tonight I told her she she should just go disown me. I don't know what to do because I don't wanna be mean to her but I am done trying I feel like I am the adult and she's the kid you repadetly as a parent tell your kid if I say not to do something you don't do it same way with bosses co workers teachers and class mates but she doesn't listen. I don't feel if she can't come out and say she's willing to change her attitude and not do the things she knows I don't like them I see no point in a relationship with her I told her today just stay out of my way don't bother me don't talk to me I will follow your rules as long as you do not do the things you know I don't like she accepted that and has stayed out of my way as long as I get out by November the closest person I can relate to is my brother but he is even disappointed in me and drifting away due to my lack of keeping a job. Oh and lastly at the beginning of June I found out I have a birth defect proven by MRI that my parents and the pedtrican never caught so I wasted two years of schooling with a law enforcement degree I can't use. My point is I guess I'm loosing all my family nothing is going right with my relationships wnd employment even though I have a birth defect I am still normal.
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