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3 months ago
I'm sick and tired! I think I've finally reached my breaking point with my sister! My Dad's sick, and she's left it up to me to take care of him. I'm vision impaired, so I can't drive. I work full time, juggle a husband and 3 stepkids, take care of him. While she lives the life of Riley! She has her lill boyfriend and lill baby, she can't even help me. Me, the one who had 2 heart attacks, had 3 suicide attempts, and recovering from alcohol addiction. This crap she's doing, isn't helping me any, to control my urges to drink. I had to talk my psychiatrist outa putting me back into the hospital for a 72 hour psychiatric hold.
She told my Dad she couldn't put out his trash because, "I got bit up a lot last week." So, she'll leave it up to my husband, who's had a stroke, 3 heart attacks, to do all the work. My stepkids come over during the day to hang out with my Dad, but they're kids! One stepson who's in college, he's an intern at the office where I work. The other 2 are 16 and 14, and they have friends and lives.
I've snapped! I refuse to deal with that "Useless hunk o'junk", as my husband calls her. I'm tired! All through my entire life, she's never had to take any responsibilities for a flipping thing! Why? Cause Mommy babied her when Mommy was alive. For years, she blamed me for Mom's death of a stroke in 2012, because I respected her wishes to not go to the hospital. My Dad was her spouse, if anyone she needed to blame it was him! She treated my Mom the same way. Mom was alright when Mom gave out money, did for her, bailed her outa constant jams, but when Mom needed her most? Poof! She be gone! But when Mom was in the hospital dying? There she was! Then she got angry when my Dad got Mom's life insurance. What a load of crap!
I'm going into court, and divorcing her as my sister. This just hit me the wrong way! I sobbed to my husband, that I was scared to death that this would make him give up and bail! He's always so encouraging and loving. "Told you. Look at what we're dealing with here! We are dealing with a useless piece of doggy doo! So? What we're gonna do? Is hit her in the pocketbook! Hit her where it counts!" Dad has since called an attorney, to handle his will and affairs. He's left her nothing. She flat out told me the other day, "You take care of him!"
5 months ago
I am the youngest of 3 girls and I've been taking care of my Mom for 4 years now. My oldest sister is wonderful, willing to help even though she lives 4 hours away and just had surgery on her hand to replace joints and straighten her thumb due to rheumatoid arthritis. Our Mom is bed-bound with a tracheostomy and a feeding tube with severe gastrointestinal problems as well as severe rheumatoid arthritis, as well as the beginning stages of dimentia. My middle sister, however, will not help at all unless she is paid to do so. Even then she is not always dependable and just does the bare minimum when she does come. She is horrible to me and to my other sister, constantly sending hateful, hurtful text messages and emails whenever she feels like it. Our Mom is on hospice be and her days are drawing to a close. I have tried to get my sister to come spend some time with Mother while she still can and also to give us a much needed break. She refuses to but then wants to accuse me of keeping mother from her. What cAn I say or do to get her to comprehend the gravity of the situation and put differences aside for the time being? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Hope all here are doing as well as can be expected. Thank you.
6 months ago
Hi how are you? I'm in absolute dismay about how my 73 year old Mum treats me. I live in public housing but she secretly bought her favourite son my brother his second home.
I never thought my brothers would do this to me and now my 73 year old Mum has stopped all our communication. ( I am pretty upfront )
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