Dealing with your family can be challenging to say the least. Got a brother who won't help? An unsupportive spouse? A sister who tells you how to do your job? An aunt that just won't stop nagging you? Come to this online support group to vent and find creative solutions to your toughest family issues.
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about 19 hours ago
I completely appreciate the open and honest way those of you who have posted, display. Having come to terms with growing up with two patents who were not well, has made me secretive or extremely private in a way that is starting to cause loneliness problems. Not because I don’t have wonderful people in my life, but because it’s hard for me to be open and up front about my childhood and even adult years. Have any of you found thisnof yourselves?
1 day ago
My mother has claimed the house to herself with her boyfriend who pretends he is a shaman. She pushed my very ill father into a completely separate space on the property and I am not allowed in the house where she stays anymore either. She says the most hurtful things a mother could ever say to me, she tries to convince me that I am mentally ill and threatens to get me evaluated, picked up by the cops - because I screamed at her, trying to let her in some way understand what she is doing! I paid her rent this month to stay in a tent in a garden and now she is forcing me to move, claiming the money I gave her and refusing to repay me. I had planned to move to my own place by the end of the month because I could not afford it this month yet, but I am worried about my dad, he cannot afford another lawyer, nor can I. The house is for sale and my mother is simply waiting here with her boyfriend to receive the money from the sale, they both are not employed. This situation has made me feel insane at times and it has been incredibly difficult to function normally.
2 days ago
My sister (A) has a degenerative physical disease and I believe the beginning of a cognitive issue. "A" has always had a chip on her shoulder regarding our oldest sister (B). In the last 18 months, "B" has helped her move out of her house, sell the house, gotten her into an assisted living facility, and recently moved her into a different Assisted living facility because the first one has indicated they couldn't have her stay. "A" has shown "B" no respect or appreciation for all the work she has done and blames "B" for trying to control her life when all she was doing was helping. I try to reassure "B" that she is doing the right thing and "A" is not thinking clearly. It hurts so bad when "B" phones me crying that "A" has done or said something nasty. I'm struggling with how to react to "A". I'm having a hard time accepting the condition of "A". She and I are close in age and I can't believe the cognitive state she is in. In the past, when I speak to "A" on the phone, I listen to all the "nasty" things "B" has done and I don't say much. This last move has been extremely difficult for "B". I'm tempted to tell "A" how mean she is being to "B" but don't what "A" to think I'm ganging up on her. She has always told me I was a good one to talk to. I'm lost at what to do. I have a feeling the situation will get a lot worse if her cognitive issue progresses. I'm looking suggestions to help me deal with "A" declining condition and ways to support "B" as she has to deal with "A" Health condition. I could also use suggestions on how to take over as her financial POA if the situation arises. I don't want her to think I'm controlling her money. Lastly to make matters worse, "A" and "B" live within 100 miles of each other and I live cross country. All of my actions have to be done long distance.
9 days ago
Hi everyone, I guess to make a long story short, I've come to realize within the past year that I dealt with a lot of emotional abuse as a child. I'm 38 now and still dealing with it, from a distance. The question I have is how do you get over feeling so guilty if you have to create a break from one of them? I just get so sad thinking that my mom won't have anybody but at the same time it hurts to deal with the hateful and abusive things she says or does. Just wondering if anybody else out there had advice or experience with this.
about 1 month ago
I am a wife of a caretaker. My husband is an only child who has been full time care taking for his parents for over three years. We live in separate houses. It used to be that he would come home for respite two times a week. After his mother passed four months ago, he's been with his father who has early dementia. We both need to work, our finances are crap, and the plan to get him in a nursing care near us seems to have stalled. I've been a physical, emotional, financial, and mental support for my husband through all of it. I'm depressed, alone, and feel like an afterthought in my own marriage. I have said as much to him too, but he seems like he doesn't have any spoons left by the time he gets to me,
2 months ago
I am taking care of my 21 handicapped son. I am divorced but my ex comes over to help with my son. He is very dedicated father. I am very overwhelmed. He attends a day program. My son has a nurse with him at program and I have nursing at night. I also have a home health aid 3 days a week for 4 hours a day, I would think this plenty of help.
3 months ago
Elderly parent in his 90's. 3 adult children all equidistant. 1 caregiver - me. I know it's a classic situation and is quite common. Over time, I have learned to accept full responsibility as both of my siblings, for different reasons, are incapable of being caregivers. I had no choice but to assume the role. Some weeks required 25 hours of my time. My own family life and business suffered greatly as a result. I have finally gotten past the anger and resumed a good relationship with both of my siblings. It has been more than 7 years of major responsibility. For the past 4 years, we have 24 hour live-in home care which has certainly helped quite a bit. All remaining responsibilities are still on me but I now include my siblings in the decision making. I've learned to let go of my anger and instead work on a relationship with my siblings after many years of arguments over dad. I'm glad to have that relationship but I have a great deal of anxiety because my siblings don't know that our dad changed his will. I used to beg my siblings to please step up and be involved in dad's life. Dad was periodically telling me that he wanted to change his will and I would tell them what he said and things would change for a minute and always revert back to same old same old. One day he took it upon himself to change the will. I asked dad to tell my siblings that he changed the will and his response was that he didn't want to ruin the little he gets from them already. I know that he did the right thing. I know that it's fair. Either my siblings would resent me for the change in will or I would resent them for never helping. I prefer the former. I live with the anxiety of having to tell my siblings what our dad did once he passes. My relationship with my siblings means a great deal to me. Any thoughts on how to deal with a situation like this?
3 months ago
I am dealing with helping care for my 88 year old mom with multiple health issue and some dementia, two disabled sisters and a disabled niece....all live in my mothers home. Have recently found out I have some potentially serious health issues that I must get answers to asap. Just overwhelmed
3 months ago
Family, Ugh! Have a very narcissist brother that I find very difficult to deal with. Dealing with issues of grief and shows no empathy or compassion for me. I am his only living relative left! He has his own family, never included for family gatherings. I do not get this...... Makes me feel something is wrong with me> HELP!!.
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