Discipleship - - A Support Group For Christian Caregivers
Discipleship in God's Word to those who are searching for His truth. This group was created to encourage caregiver's of the Christian Faith
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about 1 month ago
I'm a single woman, living with my my mom and have come to the conclusion that my mother is a narcissist. I could write pages but before you say "Why don't you just leave...?"... There's so much more...
I have struggled (still am) to find steady full-time work. I'm hard-working, educated and mind my business but it seems that's not enough.
I'm in a great deal of debt...Partly because of my mother but since I can't afford to pay her rent...She feels she's doing me a favor and owes me nothing.
Lastly, I have/had many health problems. So have my parents and it's pretty much taken over my entire life. I've lost "friends" and never get to go out. I want to but it's hard to relate to people my age because most people my age don't go through this. Oh and dating...That ship never came to port.
So.... I'm stuck, (been stuck) and am constantly being verbally abused and threatened my mother. I'm an only child, no friends (mostly just acquaintances) my father died who was my world and no other family. I'm a Christian, but things just seem to get worse. I can't even get through a day or have a pleasant conversation without an argument with my mom. She doesn't respect me or my boundaries and won't even try to make our living arrangement work and instead says throws a temper tantrum saying "I can't wait until you move out!".
She knows that I battle various health issues (without insurance) and work hard at any job I can find and also knows I'm in debt... barely able to buy food for myself. I ask for nothing except if I'm in dire need and then she'll hold that over my head as if she's being a matre. She makes sure that I am at her disposal and if I'm not she physically threatens me, or screams at the top of her lungs so the neighbors think I'm a terrible daughter. I've never done anything wrong in my life, In fact I can't even say that I have a life because of her. No matter what I do, she's never happy. She breaks my things, eats my food and refuses to let me do anything without her consent. Her only real "friend", is her dog which she yells at all the time.
Bottom line...I'm going to be 33 this Sunday and because of all the horrible birthdays she's given (meaning all about her), I haven't celebrated it in almost 10 yrs.
I'm so terribly sad and the fact that I have no one to talk to is just too much sometimes. I bury myself in my work but my anxiety is just too much to bear.
She scares me to the point where I have to lock my door at night and wear earplugs because she won't let me sleep until she does. She turns up the TV or starts slamming doors and banging on the walls if I try to ignore her.
I know this isn't normal...But it's all I've ever known. The older I get, the more embarrassing it is. I have no life, no friends, no family or boyfriend...
Please pray for me. Thank you.
2 months ago
I'm a parent care giver, my 29 year old daughter has multiple health things . She goes to an adult daycare center which she usually likes,. So why am I overwhelmed I just don't get it am so overwhelmed . I'm emotionally drowning. But I cant get a handle on why. Makes no sense I have the adult daycare respite care. I should be ok and I am not.
First thing in morning when her medications are NOT in her yet . She often has one or another of her health conditions TO OCCUR. This is stressful messes up her bus pick up. Each morning I never know if it will go smoothly or if it won't.
Evening can be the same , none of this is her fault I'm just freaked OUT
She is a floor dropper. Hat off hat onto floor, any object in her hand that is no longer needed, drop on the floor. I just leave it there. Which bothers me. I am myself disabled..
In the Bible is there anything to talk to us caregivers such as me?
4 months ago
Does God even care that I'm a caregiver? Nobody seems to care. Not once has anyone asked how I am. I struggle with my own health issues, but have not been to the doctor in a while. My parents needs come first. I keep looking for the meaning in all of this. Why is He allowing my parents to suffer? I hear my daddy screaming in pain, I just want God to take his pain away. He has another surgery in 2 weeks, it pains me to say he will have to go back to the nursing home or a Rehab hospital. Medicare will only pay up to 21 days. I'm overwhelmed and burnt.
Ken & Cindy Created to Worship said...
8 months ago
We are a man & wife christian Gospel and contemporary music and pastor while singing. We play our instruments, Guitar & Keyboards. We sing and play with the love of the Lord Jesus and love for the people to get peace out of their time with God. We are professionals I am a veteran drafted 1969 retired law enforcement 27.yrs if I was not policing I was playing music. My wife has a degree in music & vocal trained for the opera. But got saved and started singing for the Lord and loves it. She was good enough to sing the National Anthem at the Braves game Atlanta. We are looking to travel and help the elderly people to enjoy the Lord and maybe get something out of the message they don't know. We are members of Solid Rock Church, Columbus Ga. This has been put on our hearts by the Lord. It's time to spread Gods given talent again.
11 months ago
James 1:2-4 (NIV)
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." Sending hugs
12 months ago
Ava Maria, thinking of you today. Isaiah 61:3 To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.
I was extremely helped and taken out of my misery regarding my husband's recent death by the late mother Angelica's description of heaven. Her shows are on the Catholic TV station EWTN. It was so beautiful that I felt good about my husband being no longer in excruciating pain and suffering and right up in heaven with God. The description on what goes on after death and what it means to be in heaven touched me so deeply that I will be forever grateful that I saw that show.
12 months ago
I would like to just thank my God for keeping me going and safe. I have been so tired and felt so alone, trying to help Mom and keep my job. I know in my heart that it is the right thing to do, sometimes I get down, but he lifts me up and dusts me off. I just really needed to express how much I love our Lord. We cannot do these things on our own. James 4:6 God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.
In 1979 I formed a great relationship with God and always felt that God was a loving God and someone to talk to . I have kept my relationship with God to this day. 2 years ago I felt compelled to become Catholic. I really didn't know why exactly but I went through the rcia program and became Catholic. Then my mother died and a few months later my husband got sick and a week ago he died. The Catholic religion has helped me in more ways than I can ever help myself. I did not really understand at first why I became Catholic but I really understand now I feel like I have an army of saints and angels backing me in this time of anguish and I will be forever grateful to God for the push to become Catholic.
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