Combatting Loneliness When Living Alone
Community to encourage ways of living alone and having someone to reach out and say hello and I care. Many of us have lost loved ones with no replacements to connect.
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about 8 hours ago
To Anyone who finds comfort here, I was thinking that we all might have some things in common. Or, we might find interest in how others cope with things. And I wondered if we could share some thoughts. Here is a question that I hope might spark some conversation.(or if not, maybe you could share another topic?): My question is, Do you find that when you are feeling blue, it helps to be around other people, even strangers, for awhile? There is no right or wrong answer, I'm just interested in hearing others' thoughts.
5 days ago
I think it's hard to be alone a lot, and sometimes just saying that aloud to an online community like this can help a little. I think that's why people get on and just say "I'm lonely" and then don't come back again... or, they feel intimidated about posting and revealing anything about themselves. We all have a story, and the good thing about this community is that we've all felt that emptiness, sometimes to a point where we feel somewhat desperate. We want to tell someone and we want to be heard.
This is an anonymous community, so even if we use an online name, no one knows who we are or where we are. People here don't judge you for being lonely, or for being someone who has a hard time trying to connect with others. We each have a valid reason for being alone, even if we didn't really choose to be.
As someone who tries to respond to others here, I will say that it's very helpful to have a name of some sort (an online name) to respond to. When someone comes on as "Anonymous Caregiver," we don't know whether this is someone new, or someone we have talked with in the past. And then if there are two at the same time who are Anonymous, it can feel very confusing. So I am more likely to respond when I see a name rather than Anonymous.
Another reason to choose a name is because some of us have built a sense of community here. It really does help, and we can share thoughts and ideas.
I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts about what it is that keeps people from choosing an online name when they post. Any thoughts?
26 days ago
I am grateful for finding this site. There are no support groups, at least in my city, for people living alone. My parents live in another state, . I see them usually once a year and they stay for a couple of months. I have no children. My brother died 4 yrs. ago. I went home to care for him and help my parents when he was dying. I came back home after he died and went back to work. Then just worked, came home, grieved alone. Did this for 2 1/2 years. One day I just realized what a useless job I had. Not really helping anyone, just endless paperwork, no meaning. I don't make friends easily so never really felt a connection to anyone at work. When someone you love so dearly dies, your whole perspective changes, as does your life. I'm 53 years old, I realized my parents now only had one child. And, I realized I would be alone when they die. My big brother would not be there so we could comfort one another. Where does one find the strength to go through it again? Or if I got sick, terminally ill, how could I watch them go through the pain again? Who would be there to hold my hand ? Anyway, I quit my job. I have enough savings to get by on, for awhile anyway. I live within my means. Not in grand style mind you. I have an old car, and a small home that's paid for. It's been a year since I quit. No regrets. But I need a connection that's real. I feel so lost. Most nights I watch movies, the news, just anything to forget. I'm grateful for my cats..ha. old lady with her cats. I love all animals. I think they've saved me from many dark dark days. I have a friend I see on one day a week. we go out for dinner and hang out. She's basically my only friend, and not one i feel i can truly confide my dark thoughts, but, the rest of the week it's me. Most days I generally dislike even waking up. I think, can I seriously go through another day and night. I really don't have any hobbies. I'm just lost. Being alone is exhausting. I can't move home. It's so cold and dreary there.. I moved further south because snow cold and gray winters were difficult and I would get pretty depressed during the long winters. I'm scared that soon I will have to if my parents need me. They are elderly but still healthy. Reading all these postings has given me some hope that I am not the only single person alone in this world, but it sure feels that way some days. Your mind can make you think some really scary, dark, things, literally over and over and over. Need a switch to make them stop.
Lonely in Seattle said...
28 days ago
Thanks Rainy One found your message. This is a tough time for all of us family or not. I try to think of how lucky I am ,roof over my head,heat,food my dog;Cole. If my health was better I would volunteer to help feed the hungry and homeless. There are so many in Seattle. I'm just so lucky.Thanks again and hugs to all.
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