Combatting Loneliness When Living Alone
Community to encourage ways of living alone and having someone to reach out and say hello and I care. Many of us have lost loved ones with no replacements to connect.
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Want to say my thoughts have been with many here that are into this now journey in our life's after the loss in careing for our husband or wife. Would be nice to hear from others here how you each are doing and what you all have been doing.
At the present I am in the process of recuperating from a surgery last Thursday, (which am told will be three months healing process) after getting out daily when weather permitted and walking three miles each evening, am finding this lifestyle has too much time to think, I subscribed to Netflix watched great movie last night (Secretariat) first in years,
Hope others will reply back. Hugs and prayers to all here and all caregivers. Patti
about 1 month
Jumping on here real quick to wish everyone a happy and safe holiday, and a happy new year as well. I am looking forward to 2019 and hoping it will be a better year for me. This year was filled with much sadness throughout the year, however in the midst of sadness, there were some very happy times as well. I sold my house my husband and I had shared for the past 18 years. That was very hard, but I did not need the big house anymore and I needed a fresh start as well. So with the money from the house I was able to build my new home and pay for it in cash, so I don’t have a mortgage to worry about. But perhaps the most exciting thing of all was my first grand baby was born in September and my daughter named him after her dad (my husband William). He has been such a joy to watch grow and I am so proud of the mother she has become. I only wish Bill could have been here to meet him. My goals for 2019 are to continue on my journey to health and happiness. Additionally, I hope to work up the courage to get out of my comfort zone and get involved in some things. I am such an introvert this will be a big task for me, but one I know I must conquer if I every want to be happy again. So hoping everyone can have a happy 2019 as well.
about 2 months
Recently I have been getting the urge to go back to church. I was raised Catholic, but over the years strayed away from the church. I still believe most of Catholic Church teachings, I don’t know why I am suddenly getting the urge to go back to church. Maybe it has something to do with the loneliness I have been feeling since Bill passed, I don’t know if I will find what I am looking for in the church, but I guess it is worth a try.
The last two weeks, and especially the last one, have been difficult, but we finally got to Friday, the last day of school before Thanksgiving vacation. I love my kidlets, but a week of trying to cram a full day of instruction into early dismissal days and parent conferences until 6:00PM every day has worn me out. We're also getting a huge amount of smoke from the fires here in California..air quality is off the charts terrible and we've been on outdoor restriction all week. (I know that's very small compared to the people who are actually living through the real aftermath, but still hard.) I got home yesterday afternoon, drug myself into the house, and promptly burst into tears. This will be my 3rd Thanksgiving without Ed. I miss him so much.
I placed my wife in a memory care facility in September. I found that living in our very large house all by my self to be very hard. I looked around at available houses and decided that the memories that are here are worth the effort so I'm staying put. One thing I need advice on is what to do with all my wife's belongings. When she went away I changed the linen on her bed and left everything else as is. At what point do I start moving all that stuff and what do I do with it? TIA
An anonymous caregiver said...
I also care for a parent and sometimes I feel like my life is slowly passing me by I mean im a faithful daughter but sometimes I feel like she doesn't thank me for what I do .my other siblings don't do even half as much but they get all the praise sometimes I wonder does god have a special place for people like us . thank you
Went to the Mall, came back went to the pool and the music playing song " I just called to say I love you" started playing, oh my, it reminded me when my husband would call me from work every to tell me he loved me. I treasure that more than ever. Think of him every day, missing him so much.. Came back to my apartment crying. I really hope caring.com will get a group here for us all that have lost there loved one. Patti
Anyone else feel like they have less self-confidence than before they became caregivers and widows? I'm pretty much okay..not too lonely, plenty to keep me busy with something I like. But I worry about everything, it takes me forever to make a decision, and I'm still not sure until several months have gone by and whatever decision I made hasn't backfired. I've got things that have become "Impossible Tasks"..keeping up with watering, nailing back a few fence boards that have become loose, really keeping the house clean. It's hard to get out of the house some mornings, but I haven't given in to not going to school and I'm okay once I get there. I don’t know if I'm stuck or I'm normal.
Hi Everyone. I'm glad to say that I have made more use of the Meet Up site. I've been a member for years but have only participated with a couple of writing groups. Recently I have come across a weekly fitness meet up. For the summer months the leader is holding sessions outside in the park. The first meet up I attended we worked on strength training. It was only me and the leader. Yesterday was my second one. It was Pilates in the park. It was great. I'm so glad that I kept the commitment to attend. Still working on getting a regular sleep schedule and breaking bad eating habits like eating late or buying fast food. Everyday fitness has always been my goal but would love to lose 25-30 lbs over the next few months. I hope this meetup gets me on the right track.
I've got a couple of trips coming up next week and the week after. Looking forward to those and working diligently on my novel. All good distractions from worrying about when my house will be ready to move back into, which is looking like October-November. God-willing it is well before Thanksgiving. But I know it's all in God's timing which is perfect. Just have to be patient through the process.
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