Combatting Loneliness When Living Alone
Community to encourage ways of living alone and having someone to reach out and say hello and I care. Many of us have lost loved ones with no replacements to connect.
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The Lost 1991 said...
2 days ago
Hello, My name is Michael, It started on March 24th of this year when my step father has been taking care of my mom who's been sick with multiple health issues including Diabetes which has brought on C.H.F, Kidney & Renal Failure and other issues. When he fell down in the bathroom one night while I was being hospitalized for an asthma attack in another hospital, I received a call from my mom about his serious condition and that his vitals are not good. On March 30th he passed away from Multiple organ failure which has left me Caring for my mom after 4 years of me battling homelessness and almost dying.
Now it's July 18th, My mom used to be able to hold conversations, be awake more often, go places and was always on top of her dialysis.
Recently she was just in the hospital because her heart is failing and the veins in her heart are closing up. Not good.
On top of that, they just released her today and she has missed her dialysis, she refused my help when I arranged a ride since I have no license and never did.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I feel very alone and afraid of what's to come. I've thought about suicide but that's a cowards way out but I have nobody to turn to with the fact that I also live in the middle of nowhere.
Please help me,
I really do feel trapped and alone.
4 days ago
Hi. I just found this group. I am so very lonely. I moved 2400 miles from my home where I was also lonely so that I could be close to my son's and daughter's families. Each has a young son. I would love to spend more time with them, but suffer from long term major depression, PTSD, and severe back pain.. My children are busy and they are impatient with me because I have diffilculty taking csare of myself. I don't like to call them because I know they aare gretly involved in their own lives. I live in a subsidized senior building, but there are very few group activities. I am desparate and am thinking a lot about suicide. I just don't know how to handle my loneliness.
An anonymous caregiver said...
7 days ago
Living alone isn't the cause of all the loneliness. Many of us prefer to live alone. It's not having any family or close friends for whatever reason. The level of "alone" I am at.. at 67...is when I get to the part of the form that asks for an emergency contact I have no name to write down and they ALWAYS give me a hard time like I'm making up this ugly truth. It is a different world than it was 20 years ago...where and how do you make friends from this place?
Gay Salisbury said...
11 days ago
I am living in a long term care facility in Woodland Park, CO. My brothers live in California and Hawaii so I am alone. I am only 65 and the other people who live here are older and pretty much just live in the past. I don't want to be like that. Any suggestions?
about 1 month ago
I am alone as always. I have read what so many of us older one write to express their feelings and I'm sure it is a feeling of embarrassment as well because unless your family is 2000 miles away, or children are 2000 miles away there is NO Excuse for grown children who cannot call or go see, should say to their mother! and father that they can not call weekly just to say hi or I miss you or how are you just so even if they hear you say the same thing every time .I get mad at my own grown kids who are very busy and divorced after 32 yr of marriage. They know I am alone but they owe it to me to make a simple call or text. No excuse Adult Children !
about 1 month ago
Thinking about my family and how it used to be. My parents divorced when I was young and my Dad remarried. As time went on family cook outs and visits to my grandparents happend less until we stopped visiting them (dads side). My Grandparents are both gone now, my grandmother just recently passed, and I find myself thinking about when we would visit them. It makes me sad to see my family drift apart and I want that closeness and belonging back. Last year in May I had a house warming party and none of my family came it was mainly my partners family/friends and some of my friends. That day was a big day for me and it was really important to me to have my family there. I broke down that day and since then I haven't expected any of my family to be there or for anything just so I would never feel that pain again.
3 months ago
Just sad and alone tonight. I've lost all the ground I gained over the last almost 9 months. The tears and the physical aches are back...I'm so tired, but I resist going to bed, because when I wake up tomorrow it will be another day without Ed. I've managed today, but I don’t know if I can get through tomorrow.
3 months ago
If any of you are as lucky as me to get the PBS series, Call the Midwife, you might have seen the episode that aired this week. I love this program, set in the '50s and '60s in the working class East End of London. Nonnatus House is a convent of midwives--both midwife nuns and "civilian" nurses live and work there, The 10 or so residents are very supportive of each other, accepting their sometimes wide range of differences as they visit expectant mothers, attend the births and then continue to help care for the new babies in their homes.
I thought the quote at the end of this week's episode fit so well for the challenges we all face, but especially for those facing loss and unsure about how to navigate. It just reminds me that although community is not always easy to find, it is worth striving for:
Sometimes there is no map for the road we find ourselves upon. It lies ahead, uncharted, unfurling in the mist. We are all travelling through one another’s countries. But it is no matter if we meet as strangers; for we can join forces and learn to love. And where there is friendship and affection, there is the place we can all call home. -Call the Midwife, Season 6, Episode 3
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