Caring for a Spouse with Mental Illness
Mental Illness is different than cancer, Alzheimer's, diabetes, or other conditions that society accepts as organic and 'real'. Have you chosen to stay with your spouse or care for someone who suffers from a mental illness? This groups is here to support you.
Help spread the support to more people in need -- Please tell a friend or two. Thanks!
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2 days ago
I'm new to this. I feel so lost right now and I don't know where to turn. My fiancé is the most loving and caring person that I have ever known. She would give you the shirt off her back in the dead of winter without a second thought. For the last month or so she has been changing and for the last week it's gotten seriously worse. She has anxiety and feels completely worthless. She tells me that she is going to leave because this is too much for me To deal with and it's not fair to me. She is getting rid of things and has become aggressive. Not Towards me but throws things. For example The other night she shattered her new laptop into pieces then threw it away just because it asked for the wifi password. I love her and won't abandon her but right now I feel so helpless. What do I do? I have N appointment for her to see a psychiatrist on Wednesday but she's convinced that it's not going to help. Last night she told me that she feels like she's losing herself and that she's afraid that soon she won't remember anything or anyone. She told me that she didn't think she would be here next year. I feel completely lost right now and I don't know how to help her. The only thing I'm certain of is that I won't leave her. She has been abandoned by the people who supposedly love her all of her life and I won't do that to her. Please tell me what to do. ????
4 days ago
I need some guidance. My amazing, loving husband was in a near fatal car accident 2 years ago. Since then he has been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, Insomnia, High Blood. He has a drinking problem and uses it as a coping mechanism. His doctors say he is NOT an alcoholic. He goes a few weeks without drinking a drop, but then buys a bottle, hides is from me, forgets that he took his sleeping pills (Lunesta). He has promised me, our children he would not drink hard liquor. Every other week I find a bottle hidden. When he has 1 glass of wine, he cannot stop. He has to have the bottle or two, I want to be supportive, but I am tired. He is also on Cymbalta and we had to deal with very odd, relationship destructive behavior with that. It has been a living hell for over a year. I am not sure what to do... He has the right doctors, he is on the right meds, work is amazing, but he is still drinking. Is this common aftermath with GAD?
9 days ago
My best friend of 15+ years and boyfriend of 2 years has hit a huge hole of depression. It started out with anxiety that was being treated for years. He suddenly hit this dark place over the last few months falling farther and farther in. His family has a history of mental illness and he recognizes that something is wrong and he needs help, but this past week it has pushed him to the point of telling me that he doesn't know if he wants a relationship with me any longer, but he can't answer because he's not sure if it's the depression or his heart talking. I'm not sure what the best think is for me to do.
10 days ago
I'm 16 and have been dating my girlfriend for a while now, she has scitzophrenia (sorry if wrong spelling) she's started to open up to me about how it effects her, about what she see's on a daily basis and how she wants to hurt herself and others. She is receiving help from professionals but I'm just not sure if I'm able to handle all this, if anyone could offer some support that would be helpful. Thank you
Steve's wife said...
12 days ago
I have been married for 27 years and we have been dealing with Steve's bi polar depression for 20 years. Things were under control until about 3 months ago. My husband is soon turning 50, our youngest daughter will graduate from high school in May, Steve's mom recently moved next door and he quit his job that he had for 13 years. Steve seems unwilling to work at home or a find a job, he spends time with his mom, going out to eat and shopping, while I work a full time job and a part time job. He has recently seemed counseling, however they just keep increasing his sleeping medicine, he sleeps 12 hours a day. If I say anything to him about helping or getting a job, I'm verbally attacked. I am getting very frustrated and am not sure what to do next.
12 days ago
Where to start? I have been with my wife for going on 16 years now, married for almost 11. 3 hospitalizations (she's had 4.) Currently she is employed. However due to her bipolar 1 and other issues; she is thinking of trying for unemployment.
While I know that would not be the end of the world, I feel as if I've worked to hard to get where I am to not be where I am, (if that makes sense.)
As I type this I realize that maybe I'm being selfish and I should concentrance on what really matters. Not sure what I am looking for just wanted to air it out. Thanks to whoever started this and gave people like me and others a place to talk.
13 days ago
I have been woth my significant other for 5 years now, she has bipolar, depression, hears voices and has suicidal thoughts and tendencies from time to time. I have not had issues with this before now i can usually help bring her back to the light/positive side and make her better. We fight from time to time nothing crazy but it is getting worse and worse. We have been fighting for days now and when i try to show her my intention i get no where, i think her meds are becoming less effective and i believe she needs to revist the psychiatrist to have them axjusted or changed. I doubt anyone has any advice, i know all of the arguments. You cant speak logically, you cant appeal to the emotional sode when they are in this mood or thought process, i have never in 5 ywars felt so helpless with her i am at a loss. Ut does not help the fact that we only see each other on the weekend due to our work schedules and we cannot talk to each other but for 2 20 min periods when we are on lunch. I guess i just need to get this out of.my head for once. Thanks for reading all who do.
18 days ago
Those of us who suffer from mental disorders are just as frustrated as our loved ones... our health care was ignored and pushed aside... most insurance companies have a clause stating mental disorders are "medically unnecessary" and force us to use social workers, pay out of pocket, and most counties don't even provide psychiatric doctors. Our family's need to fight for us to be able to have professionals treat us like normal human beings
19 days ago
My husband has bipolar, schizophrenia, and border line personality disorder. He used to be on meds at the beginning of the relationship but has been off of them for almost 1.5yrs. He refuses to see anyone about it or get help. I don't know what to do?
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