Cancer Support Group
Welcome to this online support group for caregivers, family, friends, and others with an interest in cancer care! Please introduce yourself - Ask for advice - Share your experiences caring for a loved one with cancer. Talk about symptoms, treatment options, side effects, daily life, your tips for others. Vent, laugh, and come back as often as you need to feel less alone.
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9 days ago
My husband fell at work and hurt his neck after three weeks of physical therapy the doctor sent him for a mri, they found something in his neck and referred us to a neosurgeon, they did a CT scan found out he had a tumor in his spine near the spinal cord. He needed emergency surgery because it was pushing on his spine so off to the hospital we go. All this time my job wanted to know when I would be back and had no compassion what so ever. Anyways he had that surgery but then we find out he has kidney cancer and his kidney needs to be removed. The tumor on his kidney was the size of a football. He has clear cell renal carcinoma stage IV it has spread to his liver, lung and bones. My job told me to resign or go back one shift and be fired. So my husband has terminal cancer and I am his caregiver. We are only 49 years old and just bought a house now I don't have a job and the company I worked for refuses to let me have unemployment. I am so stressed out and don't know what to do. Any advice?
11 days ago
My husband has non-Hodgkin's lymphoma alkaline negative stage iv with an IPI of 5. he had one treatment that almost killed him it's been six weeks now and we're still waiting for him to be able to have a second treatment. He is so weak that he's actually still in the hospital he's coming home tomorrow and I am scared to death how do I take care of him? I had to quit my job he's obviously not working so money is that an issue the insurance won't pay for him to stay in hospice or anywhere else and he's on tube feeding so somebody has to be with him 24/7, he's a fall risk and to date won't eat. so I am at a loss is anybody have any ideas is this normal for chemo? Where they get so ill that they don't even know who they are, where they are, or who you are? What do I do and what should I expect with further treatments?
AA Jane said...
12 days ago
Pancreatic cancer--I'm terrified. Despite my mother starting with relatively good health for stage IV, and a great team of health care folks ( highly rated for this disease) there have been pauses in her treatment, a trial drug that didn't work--and she's worse now. Do I take her somewhere else? How do we decide to take that shift?
Jaladhi Oza said...
15 days ago
My mother is living with me, She is 59 Years Old. She has been diagnosed with Metastatic Breast Cancer in April 2016, She is Her 2 Positive. She has infection in Scalp, Ribs, Spine and left Leg. We have taken Chemotherapy ( 6 Cycles) and Herceptin ( 12 Cycles) Earlier Doctor has suggested that, No surgery is possible in this condition, My mother is living normal life till the date without any major side effects and pain. Recently our Doctor has suggested Surgery after seeing substantial decrease in tumour and at other bones. Right now her all organs are safe and not infected.
What can we do? Going for surgery or not?
29 days ago
In July 2016, my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer - a different type in both lungs and because of her already compromised lung issues (she also has COPD), chemo and radiation were not options. I lost it in then, because they told us she would have 3 - 6 months and recommended home hospice. Well, she has made it past the 6 month mark, but it is to the point, we were are now putting a hospital bed in the living room of our house and trying to move furniture around to accommodate this is not very easy, especially when neither my mom or dad want to compromise on where and how it should be placed. She is now needs someone to be within all of the time and it is becoming way too much. I had a really bad day yesterday, my mom can be very demanding and insistent how things can be done and it gets very frustrating. I can't imagine being in her place and it so hard to see her like this, but when she gets like this, I get very upset and I am not handling things very well. I don't think it will be too long and she will need to be in a residential hospice program and I don't know how I would be able to ask her about going to some place like that when it does become too much. We are checking with our hospice social worker to see if we qualify for any programs to have someone come in and be with her during the week when both my brother and I work. My dad is elderly and it seems like this might be hard for him to help a lot.
I needed to find a place where I could express my feelings and see how other people are handling this. I never thought be a caregiver to someone I love, could be so hard, but it is..... At times, I feel like I am drowning and can't see the surface. I love my mom so very much, but she can make me so frustrated and then I feel guilty for getting mad and upset.
If anyone has any ideas on how to deal with these feelings, please let me know.
Tina D said...
30 days ago
I'm 46 my husband is dying from stage 4 lung cancer. It has spread to his liver and spine. His liver is 90% consumed with cancer and they say that's what will get him. We have been doing chemo since September and have our good days and bad. This week hasn't been great and I guess I'm just realizing this isn't going to be very pretty at all. I ask the doctor what this will look like but he just says our conversations will change when it's time. I'm wish I could see the future to know what to expect. I feel I need to know. So if anyone could help prepare me I would appreciate it.
about 1 month ago
I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma- I took regular chemo without any problems,now my Dr wants me to take Taxol. I had one regular treatment which knocked the wind out of me,literally. It took 3 weeks for my vitals to be high enough to have another Taxol. I had 1/3 of the original dose and the same thing..My WBC will not stay high enough for me to tolerate this drug. Any ideas on how to raise my WBC ?
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