Cancer Support Group
Welcome to this online support group for caregivers, family, friends, and others with an interest in cancer care! Please introduce yourself - Ask for advice - Share your experiences caring for a loved one with cancer. Talk about symptoms, treatment options, side effects, daily life, your tips for others. Vent, laugh, and come back as often as you need to feel less alone.
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3 days ago
I am new to this site. My mom has stage 4 lung cancer. The tumor is large and she has decide to do no treatment. We found all this out three months ago and she is getting weaker. This is so hard. I took care of my dad his last two weeks of his life and was there when he took his last breath, that was 4 years ago. I do not know if I am ready to go thru this again but I know I have to. It is just me and my older sister. I lost my oldest sister a year ago to lung and brain cancer. I am so scared I am going to just lose it this time.
4 days ago
Hello this is my first time on this site or in any type of support group. My mother is now 74 years old and has metastatic cancer stage 4 that originally started in colon/rectal area more than 15 yrs ago. She had surgery which at the time was deemed "successful" and she went into remission for 4 years cancer-free. The chemotherapy she was given at the time disabled her though, forcing her into early retirement from work due to numbness in hands and feet from deadened nerves, etc. Next she was delivered the news that she has the same type of cancer on outside area of lungs and some spots on her liver. She restarted chemotherapy and radiation treatments intensively, but with no real success. The cancer just kept spreading- next landing into the lymph nodes... which not long after she had a terrible seizure that put her in hospital intensive care unit. Then we were given the news that there was also 7 tumors in different areas of her brain. All cancers were deemed Stage 4 and the prognosis was extremely poor. She was sent home because "there was nothing more the doctors could really do", and I began taking 24 hour care of her and my father in their home. Its been over a year now since that last hospital stay, and I just really need to somehow get out some of the stress and sadness I have to keep in when I'm around her. I do not want to appear "weak" in fear of scaring her anymore than i can already see in her own eyes. Last week, she looked at me and said,"I really can feel it coming now! My time is approaching." She looked at me right in my face with the most stern and serious look I've ever witnessed on her face! Ive heard that they really do know when their time is coming right before they die---BUT IT DOESN'T MAKE IT ANY EASIER TO HEAR OR WATCH HELPLESSLY EVERYDAY!! I AM ALSO SOOOO DEPRESSED AND I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO ABOUT THIS EVER..
9 days ago
My husband was diagnosed April 8, 2016 with Stage IV Pancreatic Cancer. He went into the ER with severe pain in his abdomen and back. He thought he had an ulcer or something like that. He had metastatic pancreatic cancer spread to his liver. After we were told the prognosis, we cried for a few days. Then we decided to try to find a good team of doctors that specialize in this type of cancer. We went to a cancer center that is about an hour from where we live. Everything was very upbeat, and they decided on a treatment of chemotherapy, as surgery was not an option. They were going to do chemo every two weeks. We said okay, cool. The problem is that after the first chemo, my husband was very sick. We knew that vomiting and diarrhea were side affects of the chemo, but he had it every day for over a week. Not once did they call or check up on him during this time. Finally he got so weak, that I had to call 911. He was "severely dehydrated" and almost died. He was in the hospital for a week, and we have since changed oncologists.
It is so difficult to watch your loved one go through this, with the pain, and not be able to help. I hope they will do a procedure called an EGD which is a celiac plexus block, that deadens the nerves and alleviates the pain, so that he won't have to take painkillers any longer. I just want him to have a somewhat normal life, what is left of it. :(
9 days ago
My father in law was diagnosed last May with stage 4 lung cancer. Since then it has spread to his brain, spine, pelvic, ribs and shoulder. He has had radiation and chemo up til now. He has been hospitalized for 2 weeks now and can not stand on his own and barely eating. They have him on numerous medications and decadrol(apologize if spelling is wrong). Dr. Came in this morning and told them they need to get hospice and to get him comfortable at home. I am confused because, they also said if he can walk back into the hospital then they will give him chemo. By calling hospice and keeping comfortable at home does this mean the end is near and they only said that to keep my mother in law's hopes up because, my father in law does want to still fight even in this pain. Thank you
10 days ago
my sister was recently diagnosed with untreatable cancer and has a short time to live. our other sister who has been living in canada for 10 years caarrived with her lawyer husband and is so angry I have poa, am the executrix and health care surrogate. my sister desired to be at home after a brief hospice stay and i arranged 24 hr. care. @ of the women cared for my father so they are not strangers to the family. My sister and her husband have created drama which is so unfair to our dying sister. However, they are now looking for papers in my sisters house(they go upstairs to the 2 bedrooms0without permission while she is sleeping. They have asked her to change her will, and the husband is verbally abusing her. She is also telling neighbors and friends of our sister that Im lying(not sure about what)regarding the care of my sister, Of course , not everyone is giving her a second thought, But Im so upset and concerned for my sister that I wonder if I should get legal advice and in the meantime continue to be positive and loving around my sister,
10 days ago
My sister (now 60) has been addicted to opiates and a very heavy smoker her full adult life. She has recently been diagnosed with end stage lung. cancer. At discharged she was personally prescribed and given a substantial quantity of opiate pain meds. Upon arriving (just days ago ) to have her chemotherapy port surgery, she was sent to emergency for an overdose requiring Narco and hospitalization. We would like her to placed in an appropriate facility where her real pain issues can be managed along with receiving all treatments which may extend her life with both quality and dignity. We have activated a POA on her behalf. What are our options? Desperate.
13 days ago
My 65 yr old partner is starting his 3rd week of radiation for throat cancer. He has 5 more weeks to go. He is in a great deal of pain from radiation sores in his mouth and can't eat or drink very much without difficulty. I understand how hard this is for him but he has become extremely verbally abusive to me, has humiliated me in public and in front of doctors and nurses at the hospital. He is SO angry at everyone but is taking it all out on me. He has never been what you would call a happy or outgoing person but this is getting unbearable. I can not say or do anything right and I just don't know how to cope. If I talk to anyone at the hospital he will be furious. I have no family of my own close by,.
Cancer sucks the big one said...
16 days ago
I'm the youngest of three children and my Mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer she has since had a Whipple Surgery to remove the tumor. It has been almost 6 months now and her tumor markers are really high 1200 she is getting radiation to the pancreas area because that the only place they think there is disease. She cannot have chemo because she is 97 lbs and 81 years old and the Drs say she will not be able to handle it. She is having complications with her feeding tube, she is depressed I can't seem to make her happy in any way then to do what she wants all the time. She has always been superstitious, fearful, and controlling. All my siblings do is make excuses why they can't help. I feel sorry for her if I was in that situation I would want someone to show me love. It's really starting to get to me now and I'm starting to resent my family, and neglect my husband and 2 kids. Help any positive feed back helps because all I'm hearing from my mom is negotiate i mean she reads the symptoms on RX's first and says that she has them...... I feel lost
17 days ago
My mother was just diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 2 days ago. Im her youngest son and always have been very close to Mom. I have cried and having troubles sleeping or focusing. I really would like to not feel alone or completely powerless. If anyone has been threw this and can give me advise I would appreciate it.
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