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Unsure and confused said...
21 days ago
Dec 27th I came home to find my mom unconcious on the floor shaking. I called 911 and they came out and worked on her for 30 minutes before taking her by helicopter to orlando trauma unit. She had a stroke and bleeding on the brain as blot clot in brain. She survived but her memory is not the same. She is currently in rehabilitation facility. She can't walk or do anything on her own. I've been taking care of her for 12 years with very little from my brother or sister. This is 5th fall in 3 months. This one was the worst I still she her life Lying there. I told my brother and sister in law if she gets better i cant take care of her anymore.I have my own health issues. Today she looked better than I've seen her look since it happened. It made me feel guilty and selfish for not wanting to take care of her. Her dr says that she cant be left alone. No one in my family seems to understand what I've been through for 12 years. I'm confused.
2 months ago
My brother is with me for a month now , he has short term memory loss, we will be seeing a neurologist this next week. I am anxious about where to put him that he can afford" & offer him some kind of life, not just a room alone. He is a vegetarian. He takes no meds , is 78 with no problems getting around. . I think I need to call someone to talk, I am wearing down with this as I am an artist that works 5 days a week more or less. I am worried that my health is going to suffer is I don't make choices soon. Also trying to move him out of his house & what to keep for him since he will be living smaller now
4 months ago
My sister in law lives across the country from us and has no real support where she is. She lives in her own home, but has had several strokes, COPD and arthritis. She is finding just daily life increasingly difficult. Lately when I talk to her she has said a few times that she expects to end up in a nursing home. However, I'm not sure if she really needs a nursing home or just an assisted living facility where she can get some help with day to day tasks like laundry, meals and bills. Additionally, she does not have much in the way of money. She has the idea that she will need to sell the house, which is probably true. But even the month to month expenses could be high. I am starting to look into this so that I can offer some advice. Currently she has not asked me to, but if I can find some good resources I can open the conversation. I don't want to wait till it's a crisis. Any thoughts on where I can get some good information on costs and the kind of care that would be best? She's in Pennsylvania.
8 months ago
My husband had an anoxic brain injury which left him with severe short term memory deficits. I have been his caregiver since February, staying with him 24/7. I am finding it increasingly difficult to keep both him and myself from getting depressed. I am wondering if assisted living would give him more motivation and help him be more content.
9 months ago
OK this is my first ever post. My Grandfather died 4 years ago leaving a lot of land to my father. My father then died of liver cancer almost a year after him. My Mother and an moved to the family land and built a wonderful house, which is also near to her family. When we moved I worked for a company which allowed me to work remotely from home. This was great till laid off after 10 years of working for the company. Since we moved Mom has had a debilitating hemorrhagic stroke. She is incontinent of bowel and bladder.. At times she she is completely lucid and others not it is a 50/50 chance. I now have a job opportunity in a city 6 hrs away from what she knows. I am torn.. The idea of assisted living would be great but, don't think they would let me live with her and be withe her to provide stability for her and she requires more than the normal assisted living abilities. A nursing home breaks my heart. Mom and I are best friends and always have been.
9 months ago
What's it like in Assisted Living? Can we still do things for ourselves? I like to cook and bake and I still do my own laundry. I just can't take care of the house like I once did. I can put the dirty dishes in the dishwasher. It's hard to get around and lift things and go up and the steps to the freezer. What help will I get and what will I have to give up? Thanks for any information you can give me.
11 months ago
I am in the process of finding an Assisted Living facility for myself. I have COPD/emphazema and Osteroperosis that keeps me from breathing correctly. My doctor wants me in a nursing facility so that I can get medical care without having to go into the hospital like I have been doing monthly. Unfortunately, I make $1800 a month, which is too much for medicaid - but not enough to get into a home. I do not know what to do. I have tried to get SSI but they cannot help me. I am retired and disabled (Retirement and Social Security) and get paid once a month - total. This will not change except for the occasional yearly increase of which we did not get any this year. Is there a company/resource out there that helps people like me in providing the funds needed to paya the difference of what I need to a Living Assis Facility? Thanks for your help in this matter. Mary
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