Am I doing the right thing by putting her in a home?
To sum it quickly to get you where I am...Mother has had several strokes over the years. The last ones have taken her somewhat mentally. She suffers from incontinence and loss of bowels at times. My father and sister have been caring for her.
I do not know exactly what happened 10 days ago, but they claim she became violent with them. They called the police, trying to have her committed. The police took her to the ER, where they stated she was not mentally unstable and could not keep her. The police where left with the option of taking her to jail or finding someone to take her to their home. My brother the P.A. picked her up around 10pm and took her to my uncle's home. He then proceed to go to my parents home, scream and yell at my dad and sister. He then came to my house screaming and yelling that something had to be done. His wife stated that her sisters where living with them and their four kids and they could not take her. Could I take her for a few days, until Friday. I agreed. Brother drops her off Sunday morning, telling her he would find a home for her, get divorce procedures started and take care of everything. Friday comes and he tells me he can't do it, has done nothing and will not do it as he is having problems with his marriage. (I got news for him, I am also!) Monday I went online and found ourparents.org there I found a nursing home/rehab center with a 5 star rating. I contacted them, providing all of mother's information. I found out today the insurance will pay for 60 days. This will give me time to get her on Medicaid and how to get her termed disable for the Social Security to start. Am I doing the right thing by not telling anyone in the family where she is, asking the home to not allow anyone that I do not agree with to see her and how do I explain to her, the brother the almost doctor bailed on her? (Sorry it is so long.) BUT HELP!!