My 57 yr old husband is developing Dementia/Alzheimer's as a result of a Traumatic Brain Injury 2 1/2 yrs ago. Last Summer, he flew unaccompanied after visiting family. Last month he collapsed from what appears to have been multiple strokes. Since then, I have found that even transporting him from the skilled facility to the Burger King around the corner is dangerous and scary - for us both. He tries to open the car door while in transit. The last trip, he was in and out of the car and the inside of the restaurant - at least a half dozen times, endangering himself because his balance is now terrible. Impulsive, Compulsive,Agitated. He wanted to eat his shake and burger, but seemed unable to control his activity. My heart was in my throat. Our short outing seemed like an eternity. Once back at the facility, he seemed to calm down, and I could finally breath again. I want to give him little outings, but after 3 attempts, I don't believe it is possible anymore.
When he travels by Van to Doctor appointments, he is calm. But, once in the doctor's office, he becomes aggitated, - getting out of his wheel chair repeatedly and leaving the office. Also having anger outbursts.
Over the last 2 months, I now see that this is a pattern that he can't control. Prior to the strokes, we traveled to Fl. the previous 2 yrs. I drove, and he was fine. We were in the process of selling our home and relocating there. Now everything has changed. The required relocation car or air trip is now out of the question. His recent change is shocking.
I have heard about the loss of memory that accompanies Dementia/Alzheimer's. I was totally ignorant of the additional signs of anger, agitation, and impulsiveness - and that these are aggravated by unfamiliar surroundings and stimulation. Based on my experience, I agree with the poster that the time for the Florida trips may be over.