How fortunate you are! You have two wonderful choices. If both are truly equal, I would recommend having a family member live with your mom. Keep in mind, that a family member who lives with your mom is likely giving up income (and a life) to care for her. For this reason the family member should be compensated. Additionally, others should step up to help to give this live-in family member respite each week.
On a personal note--since my brother lived with our father and appeared to neglect him as did my sister who lived five blocks away, I flew 2,000 miles to move my father from his Wisconsin home of 45 years to live with my husband and me in our Los Angeles area home. Initially, my father kept wanting to go home. But as the disease progressed, he was comfortable where he was.
Brenda Avadian, MA
Spokesperson, Caregiver Advocate, and Editor, TheCaregiversVoice.com