I know that this answer may be late. For that, I am sincerely sorry. However, reading your blog this evening really made me stop and think. Your situation is/was identical to mine, except it was my mom who was dying. None of my siblings could be bothered, I sold all of my possessions and moved back home in order to take care of her. (She had Alzheimers, also.) During that time, I was accused of abusing her, stealing from her, and God only knows what else they could come up with. They turned my entire family (Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, nieces and nephews) against me. I did go to my mothers funeral, because she was my mom. I didn't care what they thought or said. I respected and loved her. She passed in 1997. Fast forward over time, both of my brothers passed since then. I went to the first brothers wake/funeral, and was ridiculed horribly. When my second brother passed, I paid my "respects" to him, but did not attend the funeral. It just added fuel to the already existing fire. My point is, if your dad passed, I hope that you did go. Don't expect a relationship with your siblings, it will probably never happen. Unfortunately, people (i.e., other relatives) are weak when they cannot be bothered to find out all facts before forming an opinion. I don't know if this helps, but I hope it did. PS: I have not spoken to any siblings since this started, 1993.