Joanne, we will probably never know for sure about that stroke...his doctor (yes, I feel your frustration) did not "see a need for a lot of expensive tests...at age 79, anything can happen to you" were his words.
He wrecked our car, but wasn't hurt. Called me on the cell phone. You know men..."I'm fine..." he said. "But the car is not driveable."
So he just called a friend to come get him, never went to the hospital or doctor that day. Waited until his regularly scheduled doctor visit a few weeks later, and was told he "probably had a mild stroke".
He has been through hell since then, with a blood clot in his heart, congestive heart failure and resultant 60 # of fluid, kidney failure,
diabetes not responding well to diet and exercise, almost non-existant thyroid function which was probably the cause of most of the problems.
If it had not been for his old friend talking him into going to the ER on a Sunday, I am sure I would have lost him.
He was in the hospital for 10 days, then a nursing home for just under two months. He is home now, and doing very well since losing that extra water weight. Diabetes well controlled, no longer exhibiting what I had begun to think was early Alzheimer's, and stronger than he was before. I am thanking God for this. Certainly wasn't his doctor.
NOW his doctor finally admits my husband is "stubborn". Oy, vey!