My sister and I planned a Memorial Service to celebrate my mom's life when she passed away in August 2010. Part of her "service" was traditional but we also incorporated our own ideas as well as suggestions from the funeral home. We tied a "theme" to her celebration to reflect her favorite things, gardening, birds, flowers, butterflies. To do that we were allowed to have a memorial table at the service and brought in some of Mom's favorite things to place on the table. In our case we took a set of her wedding china, pieces of jewelry, to which we added gardening gloves, flower pots etc. We gave friends and relatives seed packets of "forget me not flower seeds" which we found on line from the American Seed Company. Since she also loved butterflies, we ended the celebration with a butterfly release and people who attended keep telling me how special that butterfly release was and how much it added to the celebration. It was meaningful for us as well because now when we see a butterfly it is a very special memory! After the butterfly release family/close friends went out to a luncheon at Mom's favorite restaurant. To me the planning helped because it was a time that allowed us to reflect on who Mom was and her favorite things. It is a difficult time, I won't deny that, but planning a special time to honor your loved one will create very special memories that will bless you and those you plan on inviting to attend your "celebration". Hope this gives you some ideas.