Several years ago my parents both died within a few months of one another. This eventually lead me down a road to developing a highly specialized hospice service, the first in the world, that specializes in caring for a patient in their last hours or days as opposed to the full last six months required for a hospice appropriate designation. Hopefully you will understand that my passion for hospice care is unsurpassed by anything else in my life excluding my immediate family. It is that sincere love of these patients facing their last short time on earth, and I am absolutely convinced without any shadow of a doubt that hospice is a blessing and something that should be viewed as the greatest gift you could ever give. When hospice is performed correctly, it opens up a windfall of benefits, comfort, dignity, and financial assistance for Medicare patients specifically. I must caution, however, that to my great disappointment, I have found many, many hospice operations who exhibit a profit-first mentality, and in fact, there exists a culture whereby many hospice directors receive their annual bonuses based on how little service they could provide, thereby placing profit above care. With a bit of research, however, you can find the ones who care. The ones who will go more than the extra mile. These are the ones whose reputations truly reflect their sincere concern for the patients and their families in their charge. In one of the world's best cases of getting what they deserve, they will rise to the top of the profession. Interestingly, they are rarely the larger hospices in any region largely because by placing the emphasis in the right place, they are not as concerned with becoming multimillionaires and realize that their work is far more important than the financial reward, which by the way, is still financially impressive enough to attract the good ones.
In closing, I have never before heard of being ashamed for suggesting hospice as an option. I think by doing so you truly have said "I love you more than I can ever say'. You just used a different set of words.
Best wishes to all.