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How do you get someone to go to a nursing home?

1 answer | Last updated: Apr 22, 2012
gordonlarry asked...

How do I get my 90 yr old mother to go to a nursing home when she refuses? She sold her home a while back and the apartment complex asked her to leave as she is very disruptive and dangerous behind the wheel. Texas just gave her a new driver's license.


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Donna Quinn Robbins answered...

It is imperative you find a social worker who specializes in geriatrics as soon as possible. It sounds from your question as if your mother does not need a nursing See also:
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home but an assisted living community; a geriatric social worker can evaluate her and help you know for sure. Even if she still refuses to move, a geriatric social worker can help you gain a better understanding of the situation and what the options are.

You haven't mentioned if your mother's mental state has been evaluated by a doctor, or if you have discussed the problem with a professional. Sometimes "disruptiveness" is due to early stage dementia or depression, so you should have your mother evaluated for this as well.

Don't wait too long to find a social worker. You could call the Family Care Alliance and ask for a referral, or your local Area Agency on Aging.

If your mother truly is a danger on the road, you may also need to go to the DMV and discuss the situation with them as well.