How do I distribute our parents things equitably among siblings?
How do I distribute our parents things equitably between siblings? My brothers live out of state. I'm the executor and all my mom told me was to "be fair."
There is a lot of furniture, what nots, some collectables, workshop with a lot of tools. A lot of sentimental things also. I am the only daughter, mother had given me her rings (one is valuable) several years ago. I feel that I need to include the rings she gave me to make sure each of the three of us have one of her good rings.
I am trying to find an appraisor to come and price things where maybe we could add up what each person has picked to keep it somewhat equitable. But I can't find an appraisor that can do it until six months from now.
You are right to feel a bit adrift in dividing the estate, since one sibling's treasure may be another sibling's trash.
The value of the estate is what must be divided, but there are different ways to value and divide each asset.
Clearly, the “value” of a sentimental object is determined subjectively -- not by an appraiser, but by the beneficiary who wants to receive it. Since it seems that the items that are giving you the most trouble are those with sentimental value, you may get the best steering by asking your sisters how they feel about individual items. Mary might have secretly been pining for the inexpensive cocktail ring, while the gold wedding band suits Jane's tastes perfectly. And in such evaluations of "fairness," money is no object.
Some siblings successfully make dividing up their parents' property a sort of festive affair. They might gather together with a list of the property that's to be divided and take turns picking off the list.
An auction for personal property is also often a great solution, especially if you and your siblings can't readily agree upon value or upon who will receive a particular item.
What if the entire estate I inherited is money? Can I still split it among the others?
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