My mother has severe dementia, she has good days and bad...
My mother has severe dementia, she has good days and bad days, and can remember some things. The problem is she no longer can take care of her personal business including balancing a checkbook or calling the bank.
She cannot remember her pin number. I ask her to sign power-of-attorney and she said no that that is for crazy people. How do I get around this. My mother is unable to conduct her personal business, she cannot even remember the city and state nor her telephone number among other things. How do I get power-of-attorney without her consent. Three doctors have already noted she no longer can live on her own and needs 24-hour care.
You cannot get a legally valid power of attorney without your mother's consent. You want her to agree to and sign what's called a "durable power of attorney for finances."[DPA] It's called "durable" because the person appointed agent (you) can continue to represent and act for the principal (your mother) even if she is incompetent. However, your mother's signature on a financial DPA must be notarized. If your mother is unable to get to a notary public (or you couldn't bring one to her) the DPA would not work.
DPAs for finances are definitely NOT for "crazy people." Many healthy, competent people have prepared financial DPAs. Then if, for whatever reason,a person becomes no longer competent to manage his or her own financial affairs, the DPA provides an easy, legal way for the agent to do that managing.
If your mother refuses to agree to a financial DPA, your only option is to file a court proceeding, seeking to have her declared legally incompetent and you appointed as her custodian. Court proceedings here are bound to be unpleasant. Perhaps if your mother realizes that a court proceeding might be filed, she'd become amenable to signing a financial DPA.
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You can be granted Guardianship by the courts. Our psychiatrist said this is possible when someone is not in their "right mind."
Wow. That's frightening. Here in Canada two doctors can examine you (4 different competency tests) and declare a person incompetent where the power of attorney is invoked.