My father has been admitted to hospital with first appeared to be bronchitis but resulted to actually be Lung cancer.
Immediately he was scheduled to have an operation that removed the lower halve of his left lung and some glands. Test for the glands came back that showed some active cancer cells and was then scheduled to start with chemo.
He started his very first session a week ago (1 session every 3 weeks), came home and appeared to be very tired and first. Some days you would get home and have a plain normal conversation with him and everything would be as normal, then the next moment you have him so raging mad and blood shot red in the face "“ going around, screaming and fighting at all family members in the house.
Me and my husband had to move in with my parents due to some problems we had with trying to purchase a house that resulted in us cancelling the purchase. We would have moved out some time ago, but was asked to stay on for a little while longer due to my mother being retrenched and finishing work as of end October 2013.
Since then it has been hard, way harder than one would ever think is possible, dad going for chemo, then attitude and raging anger and mom without a job and trying hard, but in today's life it's difficult as age counts against a person trying to find something new.
My husband (27) and I (25) need to stay on in order to help paying the bond, living expenses "“ it is seriously knocking us down it is so hard to keep quiet and just keep a straight face and one ends us fighting and screaming back, I know it is wrong to do so, but one can't help being bad mouthed so bad and just accept it.
My father has a depression problem as well where he refuses to take any medication, and with the chemo therapy he is undergoing currently "“ let just put it that it doesn't help the situation any much than it was.
It is very hard to keep quiet and just to stand and take it "“ but one can try and give it your best this is the only way you can try and avoid any conflict, a soft answer and just to stay completely out of the way if you see the mood coming on. Good luck to everyone! And God Bless!