I want to state facts re: my wife's Alzheimer's and hen ask a question. She has had the disease for about seven to eight years, and has been professionally diagnosed, and of course the disease has progressively gotten worse. She is on the medication - Namenda. She is still at home. The worse thing I face at the present time has to do with her incontinence. However, it is not directly the incontinence, I understand she can not help this.
It is her stubbornness about putting on her Depends. She either completely refuses to wear them or can take up to an hour or more walking around or sitting, holding the Depands and saying, rather defiantly "I AM putting on my panties." You can imagine what the results are of this behavior. On the other hand when we are going out, say to eat, which she likes to do, she can put on her Depends in seconds. She has, though out life, been strong willed which is not always bad, in fact at times important and right.
Lately, I have been putting on her Depends: "put your right leg in, now your left"¦" this seems to work. I Don't know how long this will last. She still wants a degree of independence and I don't want to take that away any more than necessary. She displays similar behavior with dressing. While she can get very defiant and somewhat irritable when I tell her she needs to put on her Depends, etc., she is generally not too much like that. In many ways she still has her sweet spirit.
Could someone give me some idea how to deal with this problem? The problem stated above is VERY frustrating and causes all sorts of problems.