I had my mom there for six years , first independent living was great but expensive for what you get. The grounds used to be nice ,garden ,greenhouse pond. From the outside it is a nice setting. Inside the staff was rude ,getting the time of day or asking them to looking was not there problem. Ok independent living is just that but the idea of being in a community environment was what she wonted.
So at first people look after each other that was almost perfect. But we found her several times with some bruise or cuts burnt pans. Next move they thought was best a place with in where she gets care and help with meds .That place we thought would be exactly that assisted care. But not so much as they have a no lift rule, You must eat in a table that is selected for you.My mom started to withdraw , fall end up being in her room setting in soiled clothing .Pills on floor rather than being taken. When she told us they moved the bell so she could not reach it the flags went up.
It appears the head nurse had told the aids she has a diaper don't be bothered every three hrs . She can not walk, set up push herself in a chair and in pain a lot. Doc said hospice and moving her to last stage of nursing home was best. We had been asking for pain help for her for months so great. Hospice care came in they were great ,got her comfy ,morphine for pain and she was relaxed. We had to let go the three privet care givers we hired for her care and she trusted .This appeared to be the right move. and would save a bunch of money being spent.
There is a list on nursing room so it was going to take a few weeks ,but head nurse started interfering with Hospice Care ,did not believe in morphine ,had a doc we don't know interfere with meds, aids ordered not to give anything but ibuprofen.
Don't know what the heck she is thinking but what a problem for all. So we had to move her out and i do not recommend this Friends House to anyone unless its independent living where there is good activates events they can get themselves to.
But then what ,when they can't ,its a bad environment with big turnover of help.
Sorry it is hard to find care for are loved ones.