Self Caring

#1 New Year's Resolution for Caregivers

Last updated:

December 28, 2010
Happy New Year !!!

'Tis that time of year, but if you're a caregiver, how about leaving all those New Year self-improvement resolutions to somebody else this year? Sure, maybe you self-medicated with chocolate too often or you lost your temper with your loved one when you wish you hadn't. We've all been there.

There may be a resolution more useful to you in the coming year, however, than diets or vows of mistake-free caregiving. Instead, try this one on for size:

I resolve. . . not to try to be perfect this year.

What that looks like in action:

  • I will organize and dispense all my loved one's meds. . . but not beat myself up for forgetting the occasional dose.

  • I will apologize when I lose my temper, but realize that caregiving is so chock-full of temperature-riling situations that eternal calm is impossible.

  • I will be there for my loved one, but I will continue to run my own life at the same time.

  • I will let myself grieve and cry and feel sad, instead of trying to keep a chipper smile on my face all the time.

  • I will accept or ignore criticism for what it's worth (or not worth) rather than letting it eat at me.

  • I will quit blaming myself when bad things happen. Bad things happen.

  • Finally, I resolve to take care of me this year, not just my loved one. Because eventually I may be the one who needs care, and better it be later than sooner.

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