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Self Caring Archive 2011

  1. How Closely Do You Track Your OWN Symptoms? October 10, 2011

    Of course you monitor your loved one's problems; spread the love....  Read more

  1. The Question Every Caregiver Deserves but Seldom Hears October 03, 2011

    Four words to warm a caregiver's heart and what you can try if nobody pipes up....  Read more

  2. Let's Talk September 26, 2011

    Do you have someone with whom you can yammer away caregiving stress?...  Read more

  3. Was Pat Robertson Right? September 18, 2011

    The caregiving challenge of balancing loyalty to your spouse with loyalty to yourself. ...  Read more

  4. Critical Comments September 12, 2011

    You've been told to "just let it roll off your back" -- but how, exactly, do you do that? Here discover 5 tactics to help you tune out the unhelpful....  Read more

  5. When a Caregiver's Biggest Pain Isn't the Care Receiver September 05, 2011

    Some types of relatives heap extra stress on caregivers. Recognize these 5 characters?...  Read more

  1. Pat Summitt's Son and Crossing Over to "Caregiving" August 29, 2011

    A diagnosis of Alzheimer's disease affects families in ways they can't yet fully appreciate....  Read more

  2. If It's Monday, It Must Be a Chance to Start Fresh August 22, 2011

    How to be good to yourself this "Caregiver Monday."...  Read more

  3. A Loving Way to Combat the "Caregiver 10" August 15, 2011

    Can weight control -- and even caregiving sanity -- start with something as simple as self image?...  Read more

  4. A Surprising Source of Caregiving Tension August 08, 2011

    Caregivers and care receivers often don't "get" one another, new research shows....  Read more

  5. How Much Stress Is Too Much? August 01, 2011

    Will you know -- and act -- when reach a critical point in your caregiving?...  Read more

  1. How to Not Take It Personally July 25, 2011

    6 common scenarios caregivers too often blame themselves for -- needlessly...  Read more

  2. Speak Up or Sneak Around? Do You Tell An Employer About Your Eldercare Duties? July 17, 2011

    Four reasons workers are reluctant to tell their employers they're caregiving -- and five reasons speaking up can be helpful....  Read more

  3. Caregiving Isn't Funny -- Sometimes, It's Hilarious July 11, 2011

    Cracking up and wisecracks: inappropriate or sanity-saving?...  Read more

  4. Caregiver Frustration: When a Needy Loved One Won't Let You Help July 04, 2011

    5 legitimate responses to being rebuffed or ignored...  Read more

  1. Is Caregiving Made Easier, or Sadder, When You Hear About Celebrity Cases? June 24, 2011

    Singer Glen Campbell announces he has Alzheimer's and "Columbo" actor Peter Falk dies with it -- news that can influence your personal caregiving journey....  Read more

  1. DIY Caregiver Support Groups June 17, 2011

    Ideas on starting your own (maybe it's easier than you think)...  Read more

  2. Power-Napping 101 June 10, 2011

    Learn a tactic for surviving the common caregiver problem of sleep deprivation....  Read more

  3. Caregivers' Pet Peeves June 03, 2011

    What annoys a caregiver most? Let us count the ways!...  Read more

  4. Are Guilt Trips the Only Trips You Get to Take? May 27, 2011

    Summer vacation season is especially hard on homebound caregivers. There go your friends and, yes, families to beaches and camp-outs and far-flung places. And here you are: Taking care of business and (like the postcards say) wishing you were there....  Read more

  5. Who? Me? Depressed? 5 Signs of Depression You May Not Expect May 20, 2011

    If you're caring for an aging loved one with a serious illness, whether it's Alzheimer's, cancer, COPD, or something else, you should know that you're at risk for a serious disease yourself -- just by virtue of being a caregiver....  Read more

  6. Driving Under the Influence of Stress May 16, 2011

    Driving under the influence of stress may not be as deadly as, say, text messaging while driving. But it does cause one of the three types of distraction -- cognitive, or taking your mind off what you're doing -- that the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration identifies as increasing the risk of crashing....  Read more

  7. Caregivers' 8 Least Favorite "Helpful" Comments May 09, 2011

    When a group of eldercare workers I met last week learned that I write about self care for caregivers, the subject turned to **ways that friends and family unwittingly stress caregivers out....  Read more

  1. Mother's Day Gift Ideas May 02, 2015

    Mother's Day is coming -- turn it into a treat (or at least a beneficial thing) for you, too....  Read more

  2. A Book That Has Your Name All Over It April 25, 2011

    All caregivers are clueless at first and learn-as-they-go, reminds a helpful new book, A Bittersweet Season: Caring for Our Aging Parents and Ourselves by Jane Gross, originator of The New York Times "The New Old Age" blog. ...  Read more

  3. Caregiver Anger and Guilt April 19, 2011

    No, it's not all sweetness and light taking care of an aging loved one. They can make us mad. Very mad. Very, very, very mad. Here's what you should know about the guilty anger of caregiving....  Read more

  4. When It's So Hard To Go So Slow"¦ April 12, 2011

    5 silver linings to the glacial pace of eldercare (if you can force yourself to slow down and take a deeeeep breath...)...  Read more

  5. Did You Have a Choice? April 05, 2011

    Whether you choose caregiving or caregiving chooses you can affect your health and happiness....  Read more

  1. Fair-Weather Friends March 29, 2011

    Friends are like food for my older friend L -- a sustaining form of energy and pleasure, the staff of life. She and her husband, G, thrived on a bustling social circle. They belonged to a card club and an active parish, hosted dinners and parties, attended ladies' lunches and guys' bowling tournaments....  Read more

  2. Is Caregiving Making You Old Before Your Time? March 22, 2011

    Caregivers often feel like their prime years are being wasted away while they care for a loved one (regardless of whether they're happy or resentful about doing it). Some comments I've heard "I just got the kids out of the house, and now Mother has moved in. So much for the empty nest."...  Read more

  3. Is Info Sharing a Caregiver's Obligation, a Help, or a Great Big Drag? March 15, 2011

    What do you prefer to communicate to others about your loved one's condition -- especially when the news isn't necessarily swell? Is sharing information with interested others a caregiver's obligation?...  Read more

  4. 5 Caregiving Rules You Can Break March 08, 2011

    Don't be a prisoner of these outdated ideas about how caregivers are "expected" to act. Find out five rules you can break as a caregiver....  Read more

  1. Caregiving: A Love Story March 01, 2011

    To what extraordinary lengths does love sometimes push caregivers?...  Read more

  2. Ever Felt Mad Enough to Move Mountains? February 22, 2011

    Alan Arnette is channeling his caregiver anger "˜way more constructively. After Alzheimer's Disease killed his mother, Ida, the 54-year-old northern Colorado man decided to turn his passion for ...  Read more

  3. Opposite of Love: When Caregivers Feel Something More Like Hate February 14, 2011

    Enough with the hearts and flowers. Sometimes caregiving changes the way you feel about a "loved one." Can you relate to these 5 love notes on hate?...  Read more

  4. When You Feel Helpless February 08, 2011

    Helplessness makes you want to punch walls, cry, or beat yourself up -- or all three at the same time. These 6 more constructive reactions can help. ...  Read more

  5. When Your Help Isn't Any Help February 01, 2011

    Sometimes people who are supposed to help you only make things worse. Recognize these caregiving muck-up types....  Read more

  1. Get Up, Get Out, Skip the Chips, Think of Jack January 25, 2011

    Fitness guru Jack LaLanne has died at 96 -- and leaves a good example that even super-stressed caregivers can follow. ...  Read more

  2. Does Denial Have an Up Side? January 18, 2011

    Claims in a new book by Ronald Reagan, Jr., that his father President Reagan had Alzheimer's Disease in office raises some interesting questions about mild cognitive impairment -- and about denial....  Read more

  3. Deadly Emotions of Caregiving, Number 8 January 11, 2011

    Baby boomers begin turning 65 in 2011 -- a fact that we're in as much denial about as other issues that imperil good caregiving. Learn why denial is a deadly caregiver emotion....  Read more

  4. The Art of Common Sense Caregiving January 04, 2011

    Caring for someone with Alzheimer's can be a difficult task, especially if you've never cared for anyone before. You probably know more than you think you do as a caregiver; ideas for trusting your gut. ...  Read more