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over 5 years ago, said...

I have recently completed some "Adult" resolutions in 2012 (I am 52 years old); included revising my will, granting POA; and having a very specific and detailed Medical proxy Form w/ what I want and do not want for myself. I truly wish that my Father (who passed away 1/2010) who told us "no heroic measures", was MORE specific with his wishes. He did not "Die with Dignity", instead my Mother opted to have an external pacemaker installed and had him placed on a ventilator for several weeks. She was indignant that the supportive hospital staff and doctors told her that "this was the best your husband can be" and that he was not going to improve. I was horrified about the ventilator situation, and when I visited for the final time, my Father looked like a science experiment (I myself am a chemist and have spent many years working in labs; including hospital ones). I I guess the point that I am trying to make, is let friends and family know what your specific wishes are and choose a Medical Proxy that will see them thru . Thanks for letting me comment:)


about 6 years ago, said...

AndyC, you stated what I was going to suggest. Hospice (at least mine) will mail up to 3 copies to you at no cost to you. I know I am having a hard time filling it out for myself. My husband is terminally ill, and I feel that, though he won't admit it, he is beginning the slide downhill. He was told in 2000 when the terminal disease was found that he would live 10 to 15 more years, but that was just a guess. Since then, things have drastically changed and the stress on him is worse. He now states he won't live more than another 5 years (which would put him in the life sentence zone). I keep telling him he will outlive all of us. He is searching now to make sure he has done something with his life. He has told me most of what he wants but I wish he would write it down. I will have to decide do I stay away from my family (I'm the youngest) or do I move as hubby & I plan even if he is gone and just make sure a lawyer or new friend know about the booklet for me.


over 6 years ago, said...

Five Wishes has a great online tools as well. You can find it at http://www.agingwithdignity.org


over 6 years ago, said...

Many, many people use our Five Wishes advance directive, of which there are 15 million copies in national circulation. Unlike the state forms, Five Wishes is easy to understand and use and also deals with personal, family and spiritual issues in addition to medical and legal ones. Every person age 18 and older should have an advance directive. --Paul Malley, President, Aging with Dignity, a national non-profit organization.