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Caring for my dad Member since February 13, 2010My Dad moved in with me 2and a half years ago. At first he used a walker, then broke his hip and was wheelchair bound. Now he is bed bound. I can't get him out of bed by myself so when my hubby gets home we get him up for about an hour each evening until he starts leaning to the side. My Dad has lost all bladder and bowel control. He has had diarhea for over a month now. two rounds of anti biotics have not helped. I now have to spoon feed and assist in his drinking. He is totally dependant on me. I also take care of 3 of my grandchildren while my son works. They are ages 3,6, and 10. The 3 year olds Mom has him every other week, but for now the 6and 10 year olds are with their dad full time, while their Mom is in drug rehab. My paying job??? yes I have one of them too. LOL I care for a 17 year old girl with severe Cerebral Palsy. She is non verbal, can not walk or move her arms very good. She is totally dependant on me. her foods have to be purried and I have to feed her. I have been taking care of her for 10 years, so she is just like one of my grand kids. Lately I have been extremely tired and my head feels swimmy, I think I may be over doing it but I just can't see where I can cut back on anything. I love my grandkids, my CP girl and my Dad, but never in my worst dreams did I think I would be this dedicated to taking care of people. But God has blessed me with the strength and patience ( most of the time) to do what has to be done. For therapy I have lots of flowers. Who ever thought pulling weeds and grass could be soothing? But it is something I like. I have to get up extra early in the mornings to be able to get out there and do it, but it is worth it. Sometimes I get to go out in the evenings after I get dad tucked in bed. So there is one chapter of my life. May God bless all caregivers!!!
Update, My Dad passed away Oct. 2010. I do not miss the person he became but I miss the dad I grew up with. I still have a very busy life and at times wonder where did I fit him at? But he was my main concern for nearly 3 years. I have times where I felt I didn't do enough for him, but then remember I am the only one thta did do for him and I needed a life too, so try to balance the good with the bad.