diana711
Caring for my spouse Member since February 25, 2010I have probably always been in a caregiver role without knowing when my relationship with my spouse began. He had back surgery the first yr. and 2 more within 3 yrs. Then, pain mngt., then diabetes (complication), sleep anea. His refusal to seek help has been a problem. He feel asleep driving back from the hospital for a test to check for cloting in his rt leg. He hit a tree head on at 60mph. He was in hospital 3 mos and home 1 1/2 yrs larning to walk. He wanted to go back to work, lasted just over 1 yr and then has been "glued" to a reclinr 24/7 since, except when he has had hip surgery and other surgeries for cataracts, a collaspped lung etc. He is ANGRY bitter and extremely difficult. I am 10 yrs younger, and feel 20 yrs older. I am tired. I am diagnosed with Chronic major depression and Pain Syndrone. I have many issues that I put aside to care for him and our son, who was 14 at time of the car accident. (also, the years before the car accident, my mother had pancreatic cancer and passed away 14 mos prior to the accident. I cared for her and tried to make her laugh atleast once every day. I am proud that I was successful for her to have one yr of quality time before her death.) Now, I am trying to be proactive and find some happiness and peace of mind for myself - for a change.