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My mom has passed away. Member since April 03, 2011I have been living about 125 miles from Mom for the last 15 years, visiting monthly for a few days at a time.. we shopped, gabbed about every one and every thing and generally had a great time..Now I am visiting one to two times a week for at least an overnight, and we are both exhausting each other, but I feel I need to be there. I lost my sister last week, and Mom lost her daughter.. we are both very fragile. I feel I am not in the right space to be an objective listener for Moms grieving, as I am also grieving, but she still need to either go shopping or have someone do it for her.. Mom living in a retirement community that does have assisted living and a health care center (nursing home) as well as an Alziemer unit, but she has refused all of these at this time. I dont want to force it right now, so am taking on the needs she has, which are not really terrible, but annoying and agravating and upsetting to both of us. I have asked for help from the Admin office of this facility she lives in, and am getting as much help as they have to offer, ie. extra maid help, therapy etc, but mom is so choosy and stubborn she is not accepting it, and if she does, she wants it on HER time schedule, not when they are available.. This is getting pretty frustrating for me, I am biPolar with depression, and take confrontation personally and they are getting to be more and more often.. Any tips/advise is more than welcome.. Thanks, Alexis