How to Use "Change" to Cope With Dementia Repetition

Is hearing constant repetition -- of questions, stories, inane comments -- grinding your patience to fine powder? We know you know it's the dementia doing the talking. But that doesn't make it much easier to deal with. What does: Changing something about the situation (or its trigger) to jar the person to a new topic.

What you can try:

  • Change the scenery. Go to another room. Sit in different chairs. This could take a particular object triggering a memory out of the person's line of vision, for example.

  • Change the topic. Try posing a question yourself or picking a topic you know to be a favorite, such as something from childhood, the local ball club, food.

  • Change the activity. Play music, have a snack, take a walk, offer a card game or puzzle.

over 1 year ago, said...

I have done all those things, but still he asks me, "When are we going home? What time is check-out?" He thinks we are in another state on vacation and that we created a place that looks just like "home." I can't get him off this, even with changing the subject, seating, food, and actually took a drive, hoping that when we got home he'd realize we were home. This is a big yikes. I really don't know what else to do to convince him we are home. He gets so irritated and mad at me... I have done all those things, but still he asks me, "When are we going home? What time is check-out?" He thinks we are in another state on vacation and that we created a place that looks just like "home." I can't get him off this, even with changing the subject, seating, food, and actually took a drive, hoping that when we got home he'd realize we were home. This is a big yikes. I really don't know what else to do to convince him we are home. He gets so irritated and mad at me...
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over 2 years ago, said...

My father constantly hums a certain noise repetitiously from the time he wakes until he goes to bed. It's very distracting as its like listening to a radio and the station isn't properly on the channel. My mom is a stroke survivor and at times she has a difficult time tuning the noise out. She purchased wireless head phones to listen to tv but stopped using them. Dad even hums while he eats. Any suggestions, ideas and thoughts would be appreciated. We tried gentle reminders to stop but... Show more My father constantly hums a certain noise repetitiously from the time he wakes until he goes to bed. It's very distracting as its like listening to a radio and the station isn't properly on the channel. My mom is a stroke survivor and at times she has a difficult time tuning the noise out. She purchased wireless head phones to listen to tv but stopped using them. Dad even hums while he eats. Any suggestions, ideas and thoughts would be appreciated. We tried gentle reminders to stop but it doesn't work. It only makes dad more frustrated. Hide

almost 4 years ago, said...

My hubby has started telling me stuff about his first wife that I was always curious about. My hubby has started telling me stuff about his first wife that I was always curious about. Hide

over 4 years ago, said...

My mom repeats the same story over and over.....I LOVE IT!! The day will come when I wish I could hear those stories. Usually about the "OLD DAYS" and family history. Some stories I lived others I have not. I ask the same questions, sometimes same answers and sometimes different ones. You need prayer and patience. Also playing Frank Sinatra and wine helps!!! Of course only if their meds allow. When a baby or toddler repeats everyone says HOW CUTE....well if you have the right mind set....it... Show more My mom repeats the same story over and over.....I LOVE IT!! The day will come when I wish I could hear those stories. Usually about the "OLD DAYS" and family history. Some stories I lived others I have not. I ask the same questions, sometimes same answers and sometimes different ones. You need prayer and patience. Also playing Frank Sinatra and wine helps!!! Of course only if their meds allow. When a baby or toddler repeats everyone says HOW CUTE....well if you have the right mind set....it too can be cute when a loved one on in years does this too. PRAY PRAY PRAY!! Hide

over 4 years ago, said...

I didn't know it was ok to try to stop the repetition for an Alz's patient. I didn't know it was ok to try to stop the repetition for an Alz's patient. Hide

over 4 years ago, said...

This is something I do all the time. If the person says: my mother is coming soon and we must wait and have diner ready for her. One possible answer: Now is kind of late and I know she will stay with her friends tonight. Let's talk to her tomorrow. Case is solved! This is something I do all the time. If the person says: my mother is coming soon and we must wait and have diner ready for her. One possible answer: Now is kind of late and I know she will stay with her friends tonight. Let's talk to her tomorrow. Case is solved! Hide

over 4 years ago, said...

Another trick I've found is to take out my hearing aids and open my word search magazine. Glancing up often to be able to be attentive. Another trick I've found is to take out my hearing aids and open my word search magazine. Glancing up often to be able to be attentive. Hide

over 4 years ago, said...

40 years ago is 40 years ago to me, but not to my beloved. I try to remember that I married this man 56 years ago for better or for worse. I lift up a prayer while he's rambling and it seems to ease it. 40 years ago is 40 years ago to me, but not to my beloved. I try to remember that I married this man 56 years ago for better or for worse. I lift up a prayer while he's rambling and it seems to ease it. Hide

over 4 years ago, said...

I understang the repitition. Yes, today is Wednesday the 19 of October. Wait till I try to packup for one overnight on our boat! I understang the repitition. Yes, today is Wednesday the 19 of October. Wait till I try to packup for one overnight on our boat! Hide

over 4 years ago, said...

WHEN IN the car I turn on Frank Sinatra. Before you know it we are all singing and having fun! WHEN IN the car I turn on Frank Sinatra. Before you know it we are all singing and having fun! Hide

almost 5 years ago, said...

good idea!! thanks your nerves do get a drained. good idea!! thanks your nerves do get a drained. Hide