The Long-Distance Caregiver: Managing Care Across Miles

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over 9 years, said...

Doesn't refer to my case. I live in a different country than mother. And where she lives the care is zero. She never wanted to come to live with me and she doesn't want now as well. I pay for her (I used my small lump sum pension and savings). Would be good if would be help for people in my case as well.


almost 10 years, said...

Bless Caregivers - you are so right. Good for you making the the difficult "right" decisions. I have been told that being a Caregiver can be like a single mom having Triplets that are 3 years old, with no support group. Except the "triplets" are actually one person, usually larger than ourselves. Memories and families are extremely important. You will not always be the "bad sister". You are the loving, caring sister you have always been.


almost 10 years, said...

I thought long and hard about long distance caregiving. My brother wanting to be alone 1000 miles away, in denial of his diagnosis then and now. I consulted with the best of the best, toured facilities (even though that wasn't an option he was interested in, alone and driving was). I Thank God for honest professionals discouraging ideas I was considering, not wanting to be the "bad sister." Experiencing AZ (or any illness) is not kind for the afflicted or their loved ones. Every ones' emotions and moods up and down. I have witnessed the importance of stimulation and structure provided by professional adult day programs, realize the importance of watching changes and his overall health, and most important, having an experienced healthcare team close by for him and us, concerned and caring for the family. I was told "You're in for a roller coaster ride." It has been, but I feel right decisions were made and are always open to change. I feel I've made things better, made a difference, my goal from this journey's beginning. Caregiving is not easy, I may always be the "bad sister," family and memories matter. The ride continues, seatbelt fastened. God Bless All Caregivers


about 10 years, said...

Am 12 hours away. Dad never wanted to come back to where we live. It is hard. Especially with dementia, and no other family in area where he lives. Glad he seems happy with his care and tells me how good they are to him.


over 10 years, said...

I was a short-distance (165 miles one-way) for about 4 months. It was very difficult! I could not imaging being more than that distance away. Must be awful! I was so glad when we got them to move to a seniors independent living 15 minutes away from me.


over 10 years, said...

This is a great Article!